I did that plenty of times. Even drafted an agressive financial plan in 2014 with several excel spreadsheets to help my husband overcome the debt

In our case, we are at $1000 child support for 4 children + medical support. Recently learned that two of the children have been uninsured for most of their lives....god knows where the medical support went 

SS15 has had several infections in his feet and lost a nail....we asked where was his medical card and no one wanted to provide it....

BM2 told my husband last summer that she was in dire need of medical insurance and asked if I would be willing to put the children on my insurance in exchange of dropping the support. Thats when I told my husband i was ok with it but what has she been doing with the money paid to her montly for medical support? Crickets....Eventually she scheduled a hearing to drop the support and then never showed up lol....Havent spoken since but the children continue to be uninsured and she is struggling with health issues due to acute alcoholism that she is hiding

Im not anti child support but i find it a bit strange that the money has interest on it due to the state and also not quite understanding why the BMs complained constantly that it was not enough but one of them petitioned to have sole custody and won and the other has had primary custody and told the kids that their dad would kidnap them and take them away forever which was quite scary for them all their childhood

Wouldnt it be a better financial support if the children spent equal time at both homes? This type of split would seem better in the long run than receiving some $500/month and crying about it not being much...both BMs think that the more custody they have,the more money my husband pays....

In the end when its all said and done, $215k will be spent on child support and medical and my husband will still be called a deadbeat lol. He remained on CS even when one of the kids lived with us for 2.5years....too bad BM1 has to approve for it to be dropped

I do prefer it that way....Do not want the children to be here more time than they are court ordered 

When DH and Meth Mouth divorced the Disso Master hadn’t yet been introduced here in CA.  So his CS was a mutually agreed upon number they came up with.  It wasn’t much honestly but he was also carrying Spawn on his medical insurance and paying half her extracurricular.  Fast forward to Meth Mouth divorcing her second ex and petitioning a CS review for DH.  Everything was run through the Disso Master and Meth Mouth was getting about 4k a month (that was CS for two kids from different baby daddies and alimony from second ex).  At that time in this town that was enough for a mortgage payment on a nice house, monthly payments on a new car, and she could still afford to live without needing a part time job.  When DH got custody he was remanded by the commissioner not to seek CS from Meth Mouth.  DH got curious and decided to run some numbers through the Disso Master with him having sole custody and Meth Mouth only having her EOW, guess what, based on the numbers DH could have had to pay her about 200 dollars a month.   I know for a fact Meth Mouth got pregnant again after she left her second ex and was probably gleefully adding in how much she was going to get for that one when she had a miscarriage.  

I enjoy doing the "countodwn" amounts as well as the different aggregate amounts, just for shock factor.

For example...

$347 monthly equals:

1 year = $4,164

2 years - $8,328

3 years = 12,492

4 years = $16,656

5 years = $20,820

6 years = $24,820

Plus 4 months = $1,388

Total that will have been paid to Toxic Troll by the end of Cs (May 2024, 12 months) = $26,372

I did the countdown until DH was done paying for SD's private school ($5k ayear), child support AND alimony! 

All 3 were to have stopped when SD turned 18 last September. As I was inhte single numbers countdown (about 7or 8 months ot go) DH comes home and says that he screwed up and that alimony was going to be another 14 months AFTER SD turned 18!! How the hell he screwed that up is beyond me! All I know is that FINALLY I am back to single digits (8 months to go)

You are not the only one. CS is really the only legal tie we have left to BM, since she so clearly refuses to co-parent with DH. We know that CS rarely ever went to SS11 in the past. BM even admitted it several times to DH, telling him directly that she used it to pay her student loans or to escalate her lifestyle. BM's parents also subsidized her cost of living by $3k a month for several years. Now, BM makes significantly more than DH (almost double) so we don't really care what she does with it, given that her contribution to SS is more. 

DH and I have done the math. For the last 11 years, we have paid roughly $84,000 to BM so far and if our CS order remains the same until SS ages out in 7 years, we will pay roughly another $52k in CS. In total, we will pay about $140k all said and done to BM. $140k and DH will still be labeled a deadbeat. This does not include the roughly $30k in legal fees we spent just to try to see SS more than 6 weeks per year... BUT BM swears up and down that she doesn't fight DH having increased visitation for the CS... Yeah right. 

Early days but it made me want to vomit so quickly put it out of my head.   Chef has been paying faithfully for two solid decades although he is still cast by the Gir -n- clan as a "deadbeat."  Think it comes to a third of a million for the three ferals.   And Chef is strictly blue collar (and MASSIVELY proud of it!)

Hmmm come to think of it, we also never received medical cards for the ferals when they were switched to the Gir's health insurance.   She fought giving us the info tooth and nail... we never got it when they were coming every weekend to visitation.  And of course, extra CS was being paid for it... she had a free/next to nothing cadillac health plan as a county CPS worker too.  She might have been using the opt out /buy back plan while collecting CS $ for medical.

One good thing for me about raising my kids without CS is that i can truly be happy for them growing up. I know women who panic when their kids get close to 18 because they can't make their bills without CS. For those paying it, the future is brighter than today. You will be better off when the kids age out because you have learned to live on less income and will get a raise. These BMs might have to downgrade from a Lexus to a (gasp) Hyundai! Might have to carry less expensive purses and do their own nails. The future is bleak for them lol. It's always harder to go from more income to less, and you are taking the loss early. It isn't fair, but comparitively the CS BMs will suffer a "loss" when they should be happy for their kids to launch. 

My DH's youngest, YSD14, moved in with us TWO MONTHS after CS had ended for his older two. We had two. whole. months. to savor that extra money before getting full custody of a kid whose mother never paid a dime of CS for any of her kids. That's step life for you. The only good thing about BM2 being a deadbeat was it kept her from returning to our state and thus away from YSD.

 YSD had experienced alienation, but at fourteen was older than her years and well aware her mom was mentally ill. She had lots of questions about what had actually gone on during the custody battle, why hadn't her dad fought harder or her, etc. So I made a judgement call and let her see all the court documents.

Some might feel it was inappropriate to expose a young teen to that, and in most cases I'd agree. But this girl had spent most of her formative years with her crazy BM; she'd seized an opportunity to get away, and needed things that were solid and true to help her build a new life with us. Even though she ultimately went to the dark side, I don't regret putting her in possession of the facts.

I did a back of the envelope calc and it was a house plus car plus well over $1m in CS.  *sigh*

However, its over and we are fine now so I guess its all ok.  My one regret is that the CS for MSS went to BM and not MSS when he was in college.  He graduated with student debt instead of being debt free.