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Drive thru birthday party

Chmmy's picture

SD21's friends organized a drive thru bday party because we said NO to anything else.  Her friend J organized the party and got DH's approval.  J was very clear that she would stay 6 feet away and no one would get out of their cars. I watched from the window upstairs because I have a low grade fever so I'm extra socal distancing.  J didn't stay 6 feet away and SD went to each car and was giving hugs and kisses and there were people out of their cars.  Now her and the 2 SSs are coming back in to my house and DH wonders why I'm a germaphobe.

I have not driven or gone anywhere in a month besides for a walk or run.  This fever and sore throat I have came in this house though someone else.  I have slightly elevated temp, some body aches and a sore throat, COVID? Probably not, but I could have a very very mild case.  If DH gets sick AT ALL, he cant go to work. He already only worked 5 days in the last month due to jobsites closing down.  One opened up and he's working again, unless he gets sick, then they ask he not come.  Yet SD21 wants her portion of the stimulus check we get.

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Chmmy's picture

Just for a LOL...DH is downstairs telling SD if she throws up, he will not clean it.  I call bullshit.  He will.  She did a shot at every car.  There were probably 10 cars.

Chmmy's picture

She just lost about 30 pounds so Im thinking she's around 200.  I think she is in bed for the night before 8pm.  

--figureditout--'s picture

Out of curiosity, how is she included in your stimulus check? DH and I have 2 boys together, 15 and 17. From my understanding we will not get stimulus for our 17 year old.

Chmmy's picture

Funny you should ask, DH called this morning and said we got $3400 for what we think woud be $1200 for each of us and $500 for each of the boys SS13 and SS11.  It seems then we go nothing for SD21 and SD17.  We'll see if he sill give the older one "their fair share'.  Yes the asshole wanted to give each SD $500 just for existing.  NVM that we pay for car insurance and al of their expenses but they are entitles to their share of the check.  Well we got nothing for them but do we still owe them?  I may blog about this later.

hereiam's picture

What is wrong with your husband? Even if you were to recieve money for the older two, you guys are supporting them, that money is yours, not theirs.

Why would he give them "their fair share" if you aren't getting anything for them?

Besides the fact, that it is not "their fair share". If it were, THEY would be recieving it from the government directly.

Chmmy's picture

How about my fair share?  At his salary, DH+ 4 kids=$0.  Married with 2 (eligible?) kids $3400.  If he was not married he would get $0, yes zero, so please tell me what is my fair share?

to answer your question, DH is an idiot.  His ex wife had him by the balls and now his kids do.  I hate them all more and more. 2020 is the year of the COVID and my year to get away.

notarelative's picture

The $500 is for dependent children under 17. So the fair share of a child over 17 is zero.

There's information about this at irs.gov. If the SD filed taxes she would be entitled to her own payment.

Chmmy's picture

We weren't sure if because he claims them on taxes that we would get the $500 for them, but they both worked and filed taxes so they will get $1200?  That's even better...for them.  We expected $500 for each of the older girls which they felt entitled to and DH agreed.

Winterglow's picture

That would be great if it turned out like that! If it does, please make sure he doesn't still give them that $500 each though...

Chmmy's picture

It doesn't matter.  His take home pay, not gross but take home, was over 100,000 last year and he spent evey dime.   He also gets a token amount of CS since he has custody. The only reason we have anything right now is he got $10,000 bonus in January and $11,000 tax return in February of which we have $13,000 left.  I took home less than $25,000.  I stashed every dime.  I was independent and paid my own way until about a year and half ago when I realized that if I don't save DH will spend everything so I make him pay all of the bills and I keep my salary to myself and in accounts with my bios.

Winterglow's picture

That would be met with a big, fat "NO!" from me. Does he even understand what the check is for? Does he understand that if his kids were working that they would have gotten their own check? Why TF should they get any of the money that is intended to help you and your family through the difficult times ahead? His older kids have absolutely NO RIGHT to ANY of the check whatsoever! 

Winterglow's picture

I would not have allowed her past the door. If she's going to behave like that and risk infection then at 21, it's up to her to find somewhere to stay. FWIW, I wouldn't let her brothers come over either as they have been around her since her birthday. 

hereiam's picture

What was the point of a drive thru birthday party if social distancing was not followed? That was stupid.

Willow2010's picture

While I think that covid has been blown way out of proportion...I still isolate and wear glove and mask if I go out to shop.  The thought of having several random people in my house at this time, would drive me crazy.  I hope your DH plans on sanatizing everything.