Let's start with some background information. Two years ago, I got involved with a man who has been separated for a year and was going through the divorce process. He has two wonderful boys one 12 and another 7 years old. We all grew close together and everyday was a gem. Their mom thought that I wouldn't last but to make sure of it, she shared all the reasons why her ex is a monster and the sex was boring for 3 hours long. Fast forward, we moved in, got engaged, and now we have a baby. The ex can't allow my fiancé to be happy, so she uses the kids. She told the kids to hate me and that I'm replacing her. She tells the kids that she is alone, dying, and broke. I now dread the days we have the kids. They have been brainwashed to believe that the baby will take everything and that I am evil for splitting her and her ex up. Apparently, my fiancé has tried to get back with her during our relationship. Anyway, I've tried to remain cordial with them but my patience and temper has expired. My fiancé is always on edge. I'm always upset. I think I have the right to be since I clean after his boys and buy them food even their beds. I don't cook since I'm Asian and Asian food stinks to them so I stopped.  Family get togethers are the worst, oldest refuses to get in pictures with the baby. The youngest has moods- he would play with the baby one minute then ignores her the next. There's no discipline in this house. The youngest bosses his dad around the oldest pulls the "mom" card. I'm willing to leave but do not want to be not around when my daughter is with her brothers. What would you do?