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Submitted by MisundertsoodMa on Sun, 09/15/2019 - 7:45pm

Today my step daughter was trying to cut a water bottle with a steak knife. After I had told her that she was not to cut anything. She ended up cutting my step son on his arm. I was very upset because I knew something like this would happen that why i told her do not cut anything. My wife is upset with me because he got hurt on my watch and I understand. How am I suppose to do anything about it. If i had already to her no to cutting anything and she went behind my back anyways to do it. Need some advice. Any thoughts?

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Submitted by SMto2 on Sun, 09/15/2019 - 7:59pm

Yes.  Where was your wife? Why were they on your "watch?" Tell your wife you won't stay with them without her present because SD won't listen to you and you don't want to be responsible if she hurts herself or someone else again.

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Sun, 09/15/2019 - 10:23pm

Do not put yourself in this position again. She needs to make other arrangements for her kids. What would she do if you were not married to her? Perhaps their dad would like more time with them?

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Sun, 09/15/2019 - 10:25pm

Also, did sd face any consequences for disobeying you - that led to her brother's injury? 

 

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Submitted by MisundertsoodMa on Sun, 09/15/2019 - 11:33pm

They are father from different fathers and thats a longer story. My wife was suppose to be home from work but has not show up home. It's not right cause I want and take care of kids then she doesn't show up when I am looking for her or answer my messages. Right now I am very conflicted.

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Submitted by Steptalker2 on Sun, 09/15/2019 - 8:31pm

Just ignore her. She has no right to blame you. She sure is making a mountain out of a molehill. I’ve told DH that if he wants me to watch is kids he has to have a talk with them first before I will agree to watch them. They have to listen to me.

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Submitted by MisundertsoodMa on Sun, 09/15/2019 - 10:17pm

I really apperciate this. Cause I was trying to understand what I did wrong.

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Submitted by ESMOD on Mon, 09/16/2019 - 9:20am

I'm not sure how old these kids are... but maybe she expected that you were "watching" them.. as in actually keeping them in your line of sight.. which would have meant that SD shouldn't have been able to access a knife without you knowing.

So.. I guess it depends how old the kids are.

I do understand your wife being upset about an injury.. but kids are going to do stupid things and get hurt.  I might be more inclined to be more watchful in the future or tell her that if she doesn't feel she can trust you.. she can hire a sitter.

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Submitted by MisundertsoodMa on Mon, 09/16/2019 - 6:40pm

SD is 6 and SS is 8. They were already told to stay out of the kitchen and to not cut anything. I sat down at my computer for two seconds to then my SS was cut on the elbow. Nothing I can do now because she said she cant trust me because he got hurt in my care. What am I suppose to do if I sent ground rules and they didnt follow and they just do what they feel like since their mom isnt here and its very overwhelming for me because I try so hard to be a good SM but it doesn't seem to work.