MIL & FIL actions affecting skids.
MIL really hates me, for whatever reason. She is a narcissist. Her starting stuff is rubbing off onto FIL now too, because she controls what he does and when, because he just goes with what she wants so he doesn't have to deal with her.
FIL wanted to take the skids for the summer to where they live in a different state. DH had no issues with this, and expected that everything was fine because FIL never mentioned anything to make DH not think things were fine. Unexpectedly, FIL calls DH late at night saying they are leaving to bring the kids back the next day. Still no clear picture of if they will be back the next day, or the day after. Doesn't make it the day after the call, so now the plan in getting here the next day. So he calls DH that day saying that they were close and would stay at least a couple days. Yet, a couple hours later when they get here and DH gets home, FIL tells DH that they are leaving right away.
This had a huge affect on the skids. They were upset/crying and even now that it has been a week, YSS is still upset/crying at night. We still have no idea why FIL brought them back suddenly. FIL told my DH one thing, then wanted to lie to OSS about the reason why they left, and neither one of those is probably the real reason why they brought them back without warning/left right away after they said they were going to stay.
I believe that FIL never planned on staying, and just got tired of handling both skids. Of couse he wouldn't admit that to DH, and definitely wouldn't to OSS.
I just love how FIL can't handle watching the kids while dealing with MIL, but then expects me to just be happy cheery that DH and I's plans got messed up because HE wanted to take the kids and then HE decided to bring them back without warning. If you are going to committ to taking care of your grandkids, the least you can do is let DH know ahead of time that you plan on bringing them back early so DH can prepare. And let the kids know too so it doesn't seem to them like you just don't care. FIL didn't care at all about how this would affect the kids. one day the skids thinking everything is fine and they still have days with their grandparents, to the next day just dropping them off and leaving.