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OT - Has anyone ever gone through IVF with frozen embryo transfer?

poisonapple's picture

DH and I went through a fresh cycle of IVF last year. I got pregnant, but miscarried at 12 weeks. We were both devastated. He has three boys (all grown now) and I don't have any children. We decided to try again with frozen embryo transfer (I had 4 blastocysts frozen from my fresh cycle) and I was wondering if anyone out there has ever gone through this before. I am so nervous and I'm afraid I'm going to do something wrong and have another miscarriage. We go for our lining check tomorrow morning, and if all goes well, I will start my hormone injections next week, and have the frozen embryo transfer the following week. Does anyone have any tips or advice?

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soverysad's picture

Poisonapple, I am so sorry for your loss. I know that devastation. I've not done FET but had fresh IVF last year. My son was born 17 weeks premature and did not survive.

Try to relax. Having one miscarriage does not mean you'll have another. You did nothing wrong. I don't have advice on the FET specifically, but you need to try to not be so stressed. I know it is easier said than done. I'll be doing another "fresh" cycle in 8 weeks or so and I am a nervous wreck myself. Make sure you're taking prenatal vitamins, get rest, take it easy and try to relax. Baby dust to you.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

poisonapple's picture

Oh, I'm so sorry! That is a terrible thing. It's incredible how we go to such lengths as responsible adults to keep from getting pregnant, but then when we want to get pregnant, it seems impossible. It makes me so angry to walk in to the OBGYN office to find the waiting room filled with teenagers who look like they've swallowed bowling balls. The last time I went in, one of the pregnant teens was with her mom (she was too young to drive) and she kept telling her, "I can't wait to get outside so I can have a cigarette." DH and I had just lost our child, and here she is, ruining hers before it's even born. I was so mad at that little girl!

soverysad's picture

I am perpetually pissed off these days. I know it is wrong but every time I see a pregnant person or someone with a newborn, I get so depressed and angry. And when people complain about being fat and just wanting it to be over, I could lose my mind. I know this is normal and in my mind I can't fault them, but since I was hospitalized for 4 weeks prior to my son's birth and my only thought was that I wanted to stay pregnant for as long as possible, it drives me insane. I guess that saying about "knowing the value of a month, ask the mother whose given birth prematurely" is so true.

I wish you so much luck with this. I didn't have enough eggs the first time to freeze anything (we only got 3 and only 2 fertilized). I imagine I won't do much better this time around. I can only hope we're lucky enough to have one healthy one implant.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

poisonapple's picture

Thanks for the luck, I know I'll need it. And good luck to you as well. I know how you feel. After we'd lost our baby, a friend of mine found out she was pregnant and totally rubbed it in my face. Even asked me to throw her a baby shower. Tells me how gross she feels every chance she gets. Makes me so upset. When people are acting like assholes, don't they know it? Please keep me posted on your progress. I can totally relate to what you're going thru and I know it's not easy to talk about.

soverysad's picture

Will do. Are you still friends with this person? Some people just don't get it. My own mother (who also lost a baby and should KNOW better) always tells me how cute my cousin's baby is. I don't want to hear it.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

soverysad's picture

good luck humber! I had what I thought was my final test last week. Unfortunately there is left over tissue from my pregnancy and I need to have it removed before I can move forward. So one more month to get that done and hopefully, we'll be ready for a new cycle in May. I think my biggest fear (beyond having another loss) is having more disappointment. I am not sure how much more I can take.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

Mich811's picture

I wish you all luck. I haven't had IVF but it looks like we will be going that route soon.