Coincidence or Paranoid?
:? There have been a series of things that have happened to my things whenever sd11 & 6 are around. I've started to notice a pattern (I think) of things of mine missing, broken, etc.
First, last month I had some money and when I went to look for it (a day later, purse was in house, I had gone nowhere) money was missing. I happen to be on the phone with dh when I said..hmmm, that's strange I am missing my $ from my purse. Before dh could answer sd11 said maybe so-and-so stole it?! I didn't reply. But dh and I had a conversation about it and thought it was odd, but after searching everywhere no $ was discovered in any of her belongings or mine. 
Second, a pair of my shoes have disappeared, vanished into thin air. dh has no idea as what pair of shoes I'm referring too, but trust me, I know since I have a database with pictures of all my shoes. lol (love shoes-- whole other blog). I mention the shoes to dh in front of sd's and sd11 says, you think someone stole them? Hmm, no, who would or could?
Third, I had a comb, a Banda and some other items and they are missing. Vanished, poof, gone, disappeared, one moment you see it, the next who the heck knows.
Forth, I recently purchased a new make-up case. It's no more that two days old and I know for fact it was perfect when I bought. I went to use it today and wouldn't you know it, it has a huge cut mark across the front like as if someone took a sissor to it. Hmmm, werid eh?
I hate to say this, but I think my darling little angels (one or both) are taking my things and possibly intentionally!!!
My dh says I should set them up, but how obivous is it that these things only happen EOWe?!?! I'm thinking of investing in a hidden camera.
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hahahaha! I think they would
hahahaha! I think they would pee their pants! I will try it and will have some paper towels handy!
I have a pair of 500.00
I have a pair of 500.00 earrings that also Poof disappeaered. My dd got a cross pendant for confirmation. The next w/e(which coincidentally was ss's w/e here) Poof disappeared. My ds has various dsi games Poof Disappear. Sometimes if he makes a big enough deal about it Poof It reappears. SS has a long hx of stealing; however we havent caught him in almost a year. And since we cant prove any of these things noone is really comfortable accusing him. But you bet your booties that I go thru his bag every time he comes up here-both for things I dont want brought into my house and for any outgoing items. He would also steal the strangest items. Last year he stole one of dd's necklaces she got for xmas-said he was going to give it to a girl. So now I guess some 12 year old girl is sporting my 500.00 earrings. He has also stole my girls lipgloss, jeans, etc. Just weird stuff that I even doubted his sexuality at times. Ds mostly ends up missing video games. He also stole 200.00 from us once. Another time I found like 32.00 in an enevelope that he had wrote money on the front of-he was in 2nd grade then and we never did figure out where he got the money. He would also destroy things-but things of his. I would buy him a new shirt and he would take scissors and cut a hole in it the first time he wore it. He also opened his window and poked big holes in his screen. I definitely would say that you've got some thiefs on your hands. I would definitely go thru their stuff everytime they are there-at different points over the weekend and keep your stuff locked up and hidden (like your purse)
That's so unfortunate! I've
That's so unfortunate! I've been trying to keep an eye on things but apparently not good enough. I have gone through their bags but nothing. It's like I'm living in the Bermuda Triangle. I just would like to know where they are stashing the items so I can hijack it! I gotta say, I feel like my person has been violated by these two little theives!
Probably not paranoid!
Probably not paranoid! Pictures, music, food disappeared on us. My drawers were ransacked. Sticky something poured on my car (not my husband's), pubic hair in my toothbrush, toothpaste tube with toothpicks stuck in it, plants pulled out of the ground......oh yeah, and guess who did it? Also noticed things appearing in our house that SS had no money for, told husband I felt he was stealing. Oh but you see, we 'can't address this stuff because we didn't see any of it and we can't accuse.' My foot! Roll with your gut feeling on this one!
I'm going to set trap.
I'm going to set trap. Afterall dh suggested it so I can't be accused of anything. There have been these earrings that they have even commented "mommy would like these" at the time it didn't register, but now I believe they would steel them off my ears. So, I'm gonna set a fake pair out take mine off my ears leave them in the bathroom and see if they disappear into the triangle of sticky fingers!
A ghost!!!! Hahahaha!!! Is he
A ghost!!!! Hahahaha!!! Is he serious?! My dh hasn't made any comments, but he did a few times look at me rather oddly and asked if I could have misplaced the items (not the money, he believed me on that). When I said no, he turned the conversation to something else. Recently, as things continue to happen more often than not, he asked me if I was "ok" I said yes why, though he didnt say it, i think he felt i was having some memory problems. But I have to tell you this entire situation with missing things is not funny to me. My xhus was very very abusive in fact as part of my divorce I had to have a permanent retraining order FOR LIFE (whole other blog). I suffered maily emotional abuse, but one of the things he would do --this is going to sound simple but it can really distroy you emotionally -- he would take my things anything, but for this story I'll use car key. I would set the car key down, he would hid it. I would spend hours looking for it and the spare and nothing finally I would give up, and they would just show up. Sometimes in the same spot other times in other spots. He would do this with clothes, food, drinks, anything! He would move furniture around and tell me he didn't do it!!!! It was horrible. He was trying to make me crazy or at least appear crazy. This situation of the girls taking things makes me feel the same way! I haven't slept since I posted last night and I can't stop crying!!! I hate it!!! People are so mean and they just don't realize the impact.
Girl !!!! Trust your gut !!!
Girl !!!! Trust your gut !!! I repeat!!! Trust your gut!!!!
I have been driven to the edge with this kind of behavior for 5 years. DH's answer to all this is we don't have enough proof. Ya know what i'm sorry but you do not have to have more proof. Any good detective will tell you motive and opportunity are the biggest leads they get in a crime. I'm sorry after 5 years of telling him and telling him, and the stealing really wasn't the worst of it. Finding your toothbrush wet after you have not touched it for the entire day after SD just came out of the bathroom where she spent only a short period, and no toilet flush later more then one time is enough for me to ask if anyone was touching my toothbrush. My kids looked at me like i was crazy and asked the obvious why would we do that??? And her reaction to the same question was wriggling and writhing and not looking at me at all. Trust your gut. Ask questions. You will know the truth, and setting a trap is a great idea just make sure that DH makes a major consequence for this behavior RIGHT NOW !!! Or you will be in my horrid little boat, having your Skid or Skids telling someone you beat your own kids cuz that will be the permanent being done away with of you or your kids. Sad but even my Sd counselor does'nt think she will have much success at this point in changing the SD behavior because of years of no one believing me and then even when there was proof no consequences for the SD except (" don't do that again"). My situation started just the same as yours a few things strangely going the Bermuda triangle route, then my kids stuff, then finding my stuff destroyed, and then catching her throwing away my things and my kids things and breaking their things of course always an accident or i don't know how that got in the garbage from MY room. 5 years down the road and seriously it has pretty mush destroyed my relationship with my DH because i have no faith that i mean anything to him cuz i live in a constant state of lock down all my stuff has to be under lock and key and even then one slip and my stuff is broken accidentally etc. And now the antie has been upped so high that my kids and i are going to be put in front of CPS to investigate a false charge that i BEAT my kids in our home. Even the DH cant believe this one, and is crumbling because he as well as hid D put us in this situation because she is a spoiled and coddled little wretch. Ya know my heart hurts so much at this point that it has been let to get this bad. But nipping that crap in the bud right now may be your only chance to ever feel safe and happy in your own home. I still have to wonder if months of being sick was because she was using my toothbrush to scrub the toilet or worse she contaminated it routinely with poison, Ya know it sucks that all my stuff even my personal hygiene products have to be kept in my room under lock and key. The day i sprayed my hair with shine spray and found that my hair was now covered with BABY oil which i could not wash out before work and got to look like a greese pit for an entire day and washed my hair 12 times before it made a dent was pretty bad. Funny how you could even see it in the bottle and half the baby oil was gone but "Why would she do that" Humm girl do it now.
I spoke with dh this morning
I spoke with dh this morning (I hate bothering him with thus stuff at work), I told him I want a lock on the door and I was taking all my personal items out of other rooms and putting them in the master. I said when the kids come over we lock the master bedroom door. He is supportive. I really can't complain about that, he is responsive though he is somewhat confused as to why and where the things are. I explained that maybe in the trash, after all we have never ck the trash. He agreed that could be a possibility. He and I have watched sd11 distroy her sis6 things over nothing, just because she can, is jealous, wants to be the only one that has the item (usually we get two of everything so the don't fight, but they still do). So, what should make us think she wouldn't do the same to me for random reasons. dh agreed to lock, added he would also take all their toys away for a month or until nothing disappears. As I said, he is supportive, but I agree we need to agree on a consequence for when something does go missing. I'm sorry to hear about you situation, I read your other blog yesterday and I couldn't believe it. Kids just font know the consequences to what they do or say and as adults we place too much value on what they do say without regard to the effects of these lies or misplaced loyalties or just sometimes plain and simple evil. You're going thru hell and it's not fair to you, but no one sees it that way. As adults we have to follow rules, processes, and prove our incconece. As children the get to just spew whatever nonsense to anyone and get a response that has major consequences on other peoples lives. Doesn't seem fair does it?!