Halloween & other custody items...for other 50/50 parents of school-age
This all came up with Halloween custody... And it kind of has two seperate items to it.
Currently the custody order, a 50/50, states that all holidays will be alternated, including Halloween and the child's birthday. It also states a schedule for Christmas, noting times for switch on Christmas Eve to Christmas and even-odd years. My H's issue is and has always been BM doesnt celebrate Halloween or Chirstmas.
I'm wondering if H would be better off asking for a change in custody based on the fact weve had SS for Halloween and Christmas Eve to Christmas every year and we've never had SS for his birthday (fell during part of week we don't have physical custody). However, we've already agreed he will go back for a custody rewrite once SS enters school, hopefully next year he'll start K (tho its not mandatory in my state).
My husband and I have already agreed it should be a school/vacation schedule and no more of this partial week stuff. So if SS is in school with us, which were hoping for, BM can get weekends and all vacations. Since we'd hopefully be changing to a vacation schedule, holidays should be blocked, but can we write it in for a change based on the past physical custody? So if we are in fact the 'school' parent, every year he comes here for Christmas Eve to Christmas though the rest of the holiday time he spends with her. Can you write in expections for 'vacation' based on actual holidays?
There are a couple other items that my H would like to put in place as well, including a provision for SS to have his own bed at his moms. Is it unheard of for a father to ask for provisions in a custody order?