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I am pissed! I just found out BM went Trick or Treating with my BS, SD & SS while I was at the hospital with AD19!

Yosemite's picture

My adopted daughter 19 went into labor in the afternoon on Halloween and didn't deliver until late last night, so I am only finding this out today.

SO gets SS9 every other Halloween and this is his year. Since AD19 went into labor, I went with her to the hospital and SO stayed home with boys and my dad. SD19 volunteered to take the boys trick or treating while SO stayed home to pass out candy. They could not have both gone trick or treating because my dad is disabled and can't be left alone. Apparently BM showed up to drop off something for SS9 and when she found out he already left with SD19, BM called SD19, met up with the kids and then walked around trick or treating with them!

To be fair, in the past BM has come to events at our house and we have gone to events at hers, so there's a small possibility she might not have realized this would bug me, but she wasn't invited to anything last year or this year because of all the drama and B.S. she has been pulling lately.

I am pissed because neither BS12 or SO mentioned this to me when I called from hospital, SO says he didn't think it was important enough to bother with,especially since he didn't find out until after it happened but I think he should have said something. And I know that this is a small annoyance in the grand scheme of things, but I really don't want my kid hanging out with BM since she has been acting insane lately and causing a bunch of drama.
Am I overreacting here?

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StepX2's picture

Yes and no.
It happened, your BS and DH had no control over the situation, so no reason to make either of them feel bad.
You have a right to feel upset, but try to be thankful that nothing bad happened and just try to make sure nothing like this happens again?

ThatGirl's picture

I'd have probably not said anything to you at the time, either. There was nothing he could do to stop it, and you were at the hospital helping to bring in that grand baby. Would you really have wanted him to call and bring the drama there?

Yosemite's picture

You're right I probably wouldn't want that either. Poor SO was probably in a damned if he does and damned if he doesn't scenario.

CaptainD's picture

She went trick or treating with her kids. Granted your kid was with them and that sucks that she was walking around with YOUR kid, but she probably was doing it with HERS as the main intention... Ya know? Why would she care iif it bugs you that she's trick or treating with her kids?