BM thinks my uterus may keep her out of Heaven- Is anybody here a doctor who can prescribe her something for being nuts?
Sooo not sure if anyone of you have read my other blogs..but in a nutshell about 1 1/2 yrs ago BM told SO she thought they didn't work hard enough to save their marriage and that she thought they could still work it out. Things have been going downhill from there. Couple weeks ago SS9 misinterpreted something I said to mean I wanted to have a baby & informed BM of this. She has been even more nuts since then texting me to see if it was true and wanting to know what birth control I use. When I did not respond she even went so far as to ask people in SO's family if we are TTC. Crazy, right?
But now she has outdone herself. She texted me today to let me know that the reason she thinks that she and SO have to try to work it out is because she found out at church that you are not supposed to get divorced, especially if you have a child. She also found out that in her church, the only exception for divorce is if you were cheated on, which she did to SO, but apparently that exception doesn't apply to the cheater, cheater has to remain single. So she thinks her only option is to get back with SO (even though he has made it plain he is not interested) and she doesn't know how that will work if I have a baby. So she wants me to think about what God would want me to do in this situation. WTF! I am a Christian, but this is ridiculous. We aren't TTC, but it's none of her business. SO doesn't want her and I am not going to step aside because she wants to get right with God. I am not an authority, but pretty sure you can be forgiven for all your sins, so talk to God about it and leave me and SO out of it. The whole thing makes me think I SHOULD have a baby out of spite. (I wouldn't really do that but the situation is making me feel vindictive).
AND SO has just about talked me into marrying him, if she is this freaked out about a nonexistent baby, what's she gonna do if we get hitched? Is there a doctor in the house? I am thinking she needs help.
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Lol wow! She seems way out
Lol wow! She seems way out there. First, what does SO say? Second, is there any good reason for her to contact you? My thought is, if there is any legitimate reason for her to contact you, you tell her that she can only contact you for those reasons, regarding anything else you are asking her to stop and if it continues, it will be viewed as harrassment. Also, get SO to tell her the same. And save the texts you tell her that in. But doing so goes both ways. No contacting her for any other reasons either.
Agreed! Block her on your
Agreed! Block her on your phone. We have caller ID on the house phone, so if her number comes up I just don't answer it. If Hubs can't make it to the phone, I just tell him that someone from her house called. Sometimes it's the kids, but I just don't want to deal with talking to his ex.
SO tells me I should just
SO tells me I should just ignore the crazy shit she says. He can't stand her and doesn't want to hear her name unless it's absolutely necessary, which is why the idea of them getting back together is so ludicrous.
She and I had a public argument and I haven't been answering her calls or texts since then. She knows she should be going thru SO but keeps texting me anyway. It's just sad because up until she started having all these regrets about their divorce, I thought we were all doing pretty good with the blended family thing, believe me not perfect but as well as could be expected. Now I am just worried about how much more drama is yet to come and what effect it will have on the kids.
Haha, my Hub's ex is Catholic
Haha, my Hub's ex is Catholic and started attending a very conservative church so he actually had a sign a statement to allow her to get remarried. Which is really funny, since she cheated on him (while she was pregnant with his twins!) and she and her fiance are now living together before they're married. Apparently to these crazies just being more insane about your religion makes you the morally superior person!
He seriously thought for a minute about refusing to sign the consent form, but decided screwing her over for her religious b.s. just wasn't worth the inevitable fallout.
And yes, even though she's in another relationship too, the ex did go a bit whackadoo when she found out about me. Apparently it's OK for her to live with someone new, but not Hubs. She especially loves that I share his religious beliefs (for the record, we're atheists - makes her new-found hardcore Catholicism and insistence that the kids follow her beliefs that much more fun). I know she presses the kids for info on me and tells them that their father and I are going to hell. Religion is one thing, but she has the kids terrified that they'll go to hell for the most minor infractions, and of course that they'll meet their horrible heathen father there.
As Hubby's aunt put it, "She's just jealous. You're smarter than her, you've definitely got her beat in looks and we certainly like you more."
I wish she had mentioned a
I wish she had mentioned a consent form, SO would sign in a minute! I don't have a problem with her religion but she's gonna have to work it out with God or stay single, cause I am not going anywhere!
She's certifiable. Have your
She's certifiable. Have your SO advise her to speak with her pastor, perhaps he can set her straight.
That might be a good idea. I
That might be a good idea. I am just amazed that at her audacity in telling me all this....I even heard (not from her) that she is planning to go to court to keep me and any kid we may have away from SS cause she is concerned it may hurt him emotionally and financially if we have a child together, which we are not even planning to do. She is completely trippin lately and to find out she is making my life hell in some twisted attempt to get right with God is just....ironic.
She sure did text me about
She sure did text me about birth control....I couldn't believe it either. Now before all this drama started we had pretty good communication (I even helped her get a job) so I guess that's why she feels comfortable texting me directly but I certainly never did anything to make her feel we were close enough to discuss birth control!
LOL! I am scared to text her
LOL! I am scared to text her back.....I am having trouble rising above her lately. My fingers have been itching to text her that I have not just been being a babysitter/dickwarmer for her until she sowed her wild oats and that she DESERVES to go to hell!
Which I don't really believe but I just want to mess with her.
crazy CRAZY bitch. she needs
crazy CRAZY bitch. she needs to be locked up somewhere, medicated, and observed.
The bible does say that if
The bible does say that if two people divorce for reasons other than sexual immorality, that the divorce is invalid and any subsequent marriages begin in adultery. However, the bible does refer to these second marriages as MARRIAGE. So they may begin with adultery, but are indeed, valid marriages and inherit all the same privileges and expectations of the prior marriage.
That is great! I haven't
That is great! I haven't looked at my blog in a couple weeks so I had not seen this but I really appreciate you taking the time to look that up for me! I have the feeling she is gonna freak out!
I mite be a bit spiteful, but
I mite be a bit spiteful, but i would have told her "Too late. You need a plan B."
}:)
LOL, I like how she is only
LOL, I like how she is only worried about her own soul and doesn't even consider - or care - what it might do to yours.
What a selfish loon! BM's are bad, but this one takes the cake.
Here you
Here you go.
http://www.studythebible.com/question/topics/marriage.htm
Read through it. Basically the BM in your life is screwed. And you might want to point out that no where in the bible does it state she is allowed to remarry her ex husband either. She is simply: Not allowed to remarry at all.
Pretty much her pennance for the sin of adultury/ fornication outside her marriage is to spend the rest of her lift single and celebate in order to get into heaven.
Hope she has stock in Energizer: maybe then she could get some of her money back
LOL! I hadn't seen this yet
LOL! I hadn't seen this yet but the comment about Energizer is funny.... although I was just hoping that she would just give up on SO and move on. It's kinda sad to think that she will have to be a miserable wretch the rest of her life. But that is her problem and she will have to work it out with God. Hopefully SO can use this info and the info in the comment from Newwife3 to set her straight next time she starts this crap. Thanks a lot for looking that up for me!