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Hi everyone out there! I have been a stepmom for 3 yrs now. i have 3 SK ages 9, 11, 14. As most of you can realize I am very disrespected in my home, and tonight was bad. my husband has been saying from the start that since I am the one who is here during the day while he is working that I have to use discipline. I have a background in child care development and a 6 yr old child of my own. the 14 yr old has never liked me, and me having had a stepfather growing up have always tried to understand what he is going through. My husband grew up in the normal household with both parents. Anyway, I have been the 14 yr old punching bag since day one. it doesnt help that he had never had any discipline before ever. as his parents never knew what the hell they were doing. i have always tried to allow 14 yr old to be a teenager, but there r days, most days really where he is scary. he gets in my face and makes fists and screams n truly hates me. I am sick of being the one who has to discipline him and so then being the bad guy. anytime that I say Im done you do all the punishment my husband flips out and said how that lets 14 yr old win and thats not have a mother acts. although, when i do punish, my husband lets son off the hook because he screams and whins and says im lieing about what has reallu been going on. I need help. i love my husband and we never fight when the kids arent here. i dont want to lose him. i am very stressed right now. i couldnt believe there was this site. i truly hope to have some good advice and maybe even some that i can show my husband. thanks to anyone that replies!!!!!