I think I have your life. My dh and skids are great-love them very much. The exwives (2 of them) are beasts. They are system-working, manipulative, lying, controlfreaks. And that is what their families think of them. Some times my heart just hurts because I think I made a mistake getting married. But I also can't think of me without them. My husband is very passive-no gray hair-me, well, I went gray after I met him very quickly. I feel I have lost me. I am angry, edgy, anxious, not the me I once was. Any words of advice from the seasoned veterans would be great. MinneMom-here's to us handling life with the most compassion, class and respect possible. God never puts a mountain in front of you that you can't climb. (My mountain monsters keep hiding and cutting the lines to my oxygen tanks though.)