Family photos on display

My DH has three adult skids and one grand skid. I have an adult daughter from first marriage and DH and I have two gorgeous boys together. I cringe at the sight of two of them and one I tolerate, as she has tried over the years. The grandskid is the innocent party in all of this and is a blank canvas as far as I'm concerned as she grows I hope her mother doesn't poison her mind about me. I find it difficult to bond to this child knowing what her mother is like.
The thing is, I hate displaying photo's of DH kids as I believe it gives off bad vibes in my own home, I feel I don't need to be reminded of them 24/7. Does anyone else feel this way???

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Thanks for your advice, our

Thanks for your advice, our 12 year old together is a spitting image of his father as a child. The adult SS has no similarities in physical appearance or characteristics. Our sons think of the SS as a creepy freak because he still lives with his BM, and would be horrified if I put photos of him up in our home.
I want my DH , my kids and my life without these individuals who without my DH, i would 't give the time of day for, I do not enjoy their company whatsoever and they are sooooooo boring.

I have to agree with you. I

I have to agree with you. I too do not like to display photos of people I don't like in my home and that bring us problems. I quickly made the decision years ago to not display ANY photos in my home except those of my husband and I together and having a good time. I once had some pics of our son, but when DH and others asked about skid's photos, I took them down. We only have one picture on display in our home and it is of ourselves. That's it. Problem solved.

You know, I think my mother

You know, I think my mother went through some version of what you are feeling. She was not the holder of the pictures at the time. My father's mother was. She was conscientious about which pictures were or were not on display when my mom, dad, me and my sisters visited. This was because my father had, ah, fathered a daugher before marring my mother and none of his subsequent daughter knew of her. Until I was 18 and took down a phone message to my dad that both my parents reacted to in a manner I did not understand,
Wow, I offered no advice. Damnit.

When I first moved in with

When I first moved in with DH, his house was a shrine to SD. Ugh pictures of her on every wall from the day she was born. Everywhere I looked there was her face. I slowly replaced about half of them with pics of my daughter. Then when our daughter was born I took some more down.

I was so happy when we moved and he nicely asked that we not put pics of the kids up on the walls, only a couple in the downstairs family room

Bad enough she lives with us, do I really need to see her pics when she is not home!!!

my ss15 looks exactly like bm

my ss15 looks exactly like bm and when he was small he had the longer, curly, unruly red haired mop top look with the big goofy smile on his face. He was very chubby as well. You know that movie "badder Santa"? Well ss15 was the fat red headed kid in the movie santa befriends. It actually was ss's fav movie when I met SO and when I saw it the first time I was not surprised it was ss's fav, but when I mentioned to SO once that ss looked just like that kid and acted like that kid, SO was shocked and said he doesn't look anything like that kid. Hmm. Anyways, so I did not display any pics of any kids at first and then recently I have arranged some pics in the upstairs hallway that I really never look at, but they're on display. They were very CAREFULLY chosen so that none of them have ss giving that goofy smile, except one b/c sd requested I hang it up b/c it's her fav. But it's hanging at the dark end where there's no light!
Today SO and I are getting married and I am planning to hang a nice pic of just us on the wall. I already have the space for it!!

I totally agree with you

I totally agree with you about the constant reminder, I remember a certain photo of the three skids that annoyed me every time I passed it. When we had a separation I was so happy to have just my photos--my family....We have separated again, trying to work on it. But what is really bugging me is a photo calendar of his grandskid with his ex wife's dad holding the grandskid in the photo...oh please... When I move back that will be the first thing to be put in the rubbish bin...lol...