SD blaming me for breakdown
To start, I have been around SD14 for about 2 1/2 years no problems in the beginning. Lately things have gotten bad, really bad. DH works graveyards so I am the "parent" while he is at work, most of the time as soon as he drives away she turns into a total defiant smart mouth little girl. She takes off down the block I have to go get her, she doesn't get to bed when she is supposed to doesn't do her chores but the worst part is that she argues EVERYTHING, has an excuse for everything, calls me a B**ch to my face and many other names. I have a daughter 13 years old, so yes I know the teen years are hard but my child does not disrespect me or DH the way SD disrespects me. So today she left with her mother for something that was supposed to be 2 hours and then calls DH to ask if she can stay at BM, he said yes, no problem with me either BUT when she left she took clothes that are to remain here with her and left her room a mess, left the bathroom a mess and forgot her meds. So DH emailed BM and told her that she left without doing her things, BM brings her (after I had already waited for 3 hours I decided I would like to leave the house I was not going to sit around and wait for them all night) I was upset because I had to turn around and come back cause BM finally showed up. I did make the comment to SD that its not fair that my life revolves around BM schedule. SD was stomping around pissed off cause she had to change her clothes, clean her room etc. SD storms down the hall and calls me a F**king B**ch :jawdrop: , I tell her she needs to show some respect, she tells me to get the f**k out of her face, remember she is 14 and talking to me like this. Anyway, when she leaves to get into BM car I followed her out and told BM "i just wanted to let you know how disrespectful she just was with me inside" and told her the above. Now SD is having a breakdown at BM's house and telling BM and DH that she doesn't understand why I went off on her and crying and making all kinds of bs up about the events today. She is being overly dramatic and is causing a lot of tension in our household already as it is, I am worried that she is going to decide she doesn't want to come back and thats going to hurt DH, is it my fault?? :?