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Anyone else think They have the most Ignorant BM ever?

tkerb_08's picture

Grr... I swear BM is so f'in ignorant it makes me so mad. So we had SS6 and SD4 since Wednesday last week. BM has an thing for cutting SS's hair into a mo-hawk DH don't really like it and has told SS he thinks it makes him look silly. This is not the first time this has happened. So my DH told him this yet again when we got him back with a mo-hawk. The next morning he looked at his daddy and said "daddy I want to look like you" then he turned to me and asked "will you buzz it off please?" he asked me so nicely so of course I said yes. Then the next day my SD4 was begging me to paint her fingernails I had just bought some new nail polish at Five Below pink purple and green. And of course once you do one all four are gathered around asking and I knew this would happen which is why I bought green too for the boys. We had a great weekend the kids were all happy had lots of fun playing with their friends and family. Then 2:30 rolled around Sunday. The time that is always DREDED it is always a fight and hassle to get them to get loaded of up to go back to Mommy they both get really upset and start whinning they don't want to go Mommy's. This has always been this way since the day I got with my my DH almost 3 years ago. So we get up to the drop point after listening and watching the SS6 whine and pout the whole 45 minute drive. And BM get him out of the car and looks at his finger nails and starts teasing him that they are painted. It is like really she has sent him to us before with them painted so I brushed it off as just fun teasing which is what it started out as. Then she took him to her car and came back and hit the side of our van really hard and started screaming at DH as I am trying to get SD4 to get out of the car as she is not wanting to budge cause she don't want to go to mommy. She was screaming "you think you are FUCKING funny Shaving off his mohawk he just "asked" me to put that back before he left this is FUCKING rediculaous YOU MOTHERFUCKER you just did this to PISS me the FUCK off." (Yeah sounds more like you just finally convinced him to let you cut it back.) Now mind you this mainly only makes me angry because she is saying this all in front of SD4 and SS2 and BD1. It is like really how can you be talking like this in front of your child let alone the little two. SS2 is strongly at the copy cat stage where he repeats everything we have already gone through the getting stern with him about Curse words he comes back from BM2's house saying. It just really irks me. that BM1 can do this I flat out told her at this point I was the one that cut off his Mohawk BECAUSE he asked me to and if you don't believe me go ahead and ask him. So she did she went back over to her car and said SS's full name did you FUCKING ask her to cut your hair? All I could think is are you flipping kidding me right now of course he is going to tell you NO at this point cause he doesn't want to make you madder and get in trouble. GRR...then as we are driving off cause she got both of the kids and was putting them in the car as we drive off she starts yelling at DH you MOTHERFUCKING PIECE OF SHIT YOUR AREN"T GETTING THEM BACK I DON"T CARE IF YOUR SHOW UP ON MY MOTHERFUCKING DOORSTEP I WILL CALL THE FUCKING COPS ON YOUR ASS THEY ARE MY FUCKING KIDS AND YOU ARE NOT GOING TO PULL THIS SHIT. SS6 and SD4 are sitting there with their door wide open listening to BM talk to their daddy like this. It just makes me so upset how Ignorant she is to how bad it is hurting those babies when she talks to and about their Daddy like that.

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tkerb_08's picture

I know right and this not just a rare ocassion thing she is constantly doing things like this I have voicemails that she has left on my phone calling me pretty well everyname in the book and you can hear the kids in the back talking or crying. One of them I even have her trying to get SD4 trying to tell me that I am a bitch this one I actually find kinda funny cause all SD4 said to this was "Hi, Tara I love you." It was so flipping cute. after that she took the phone back and started curseing at my voicemail more. lol piece of work is so true.

tkerb_08's picture

Well lets see the first year or so I was with my DH she did then about year ago when the mohawk disappeared the first time by his own doing when he was 5 he got his mohawk with the clippers and his sister 3 at the time's bangs. After that it I who buzzed his hair once a month. this past week when we got him was the first time she had done anything with his hair in well over 8 months.

tkerb_08's picture

But I mean really it is just hair it will grow back is really any reason to start Swearing in front of your children and Mine? It is called Self-Control learn it PLEASE!

teristepmom's picture

Uhmmm....what kind of mother WANTS her child to have a mohawk? When does she plan for him to get his first tattoo? And has she purchased "My First little Stripper Pole" for her daughter?

Not to be all uber-conservative but isn't actually ENCOURAGING your children to make themselves look like part of an established underclass rather than aim for achievement a bit odd????? I don't think I have ever heard of a mother who intentionally grooms her child to look like a "badass" in kindergarden!

tkerb_08's picture

My point exactly. It is bad enough the kid already comes home with atleast 2 not so good reports a week from school. Give him the badass mohawk your odds are good those numbers are only going to increase. Which is one reason I tell him it makes him look silly instead like the good little boy I know you are. Because I really don't get his mother is always complaining to DH "HIS SON" needs an attitude adjustment I can't get him to listen to me for shit. I wish I wasn't so scared of being murdered by this physco because I would really like to tell her did you every stop to think it is your own fault because of how you behave around him, Because when they are with us we don't have hardly any problems. He is one of the sweetest most polite little boys you ever met 95% of the time. It is always may I have a drink please? Thank you. "Can I please go to "names" house to play?" and when he is told go pick up toys so you can go outside and play. He gets up and he picks up his toys to go out. The 5% we do have any problems which just like any normal kid is sibling rivalary. So I makes it bluntly obvisous to me that if she is having problems with him it is by her own doing becasue he is practically an angel when he is with us.

teristepmom's picture

If the mohawk is being worn by someone as identification with their Indian heritage then that is an entirely different thing. However, that does not appear to be the case here. Unfortunately, here it appears that the mother is intentionally teaching the child to be viewed as a tough rebellious person from a very early age. How is that possibly going to help him succeed in school and employment?

tkerb_08's picture

I think it was more going for mohawk is mostly associated with "Badasses" and why in bloodly hell would you want to make a Kindergardener who is already having some behavioral issues in school look and or feel like a badass?