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SS14 boycotting us; should we boycott him?

tiredout's picture

Submitted by tiredout on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 3:47pm

W/out getting into too much detail; SS14 is PAS- now refusing to come to our house EOWE and Wed....we've had this schedule 8 years....SS14 got mad cause he was grounded for telling his Dad to F-off and of course we get no support from his mother who seems to find this acceptable behavior....SS14 won't return calls and would never initiate a call to us unless he wanted something; BM says she can't make him come (translation- S14 runs the show...)..in between telling him how horrible his Dad is for grounding him and being alive in general...etc....so all that said...would you all attend his events (sports) if he isnt coming like he knows he is supossed to and also doest acknowledge us when we are there anyway?

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just tired's picture

Submitted by just tired on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 3:54pm

Not only no....but HELL no. Attending sporting events is showing support for a child. If he is behaving inappropriately (and telling his dad to f-off IS inappropriate), then why would you go out of your way to show support? It's sending mixed messages: you can't talk like that to your dad, but that's okay....we'll still be at your game.

Others may disagree with my opinion, but that would be my stance.

3familiesIn1's picture

Submitted by 3familiesIn1 on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 4:31pm

I'm for tough love. 14 is old enough to get back what he is putting in. Sorry I can't make the game until you apologise, nor can I pay for the extras... I'm sure Dad has to foot the bill for something to do with the sport - right? SS14 didn't earn it now.

12yrstepmonster's picture

Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 5:38pm

Dh goes to ss15 activities however exras have now stopped.

I think it should be up to the parent. I would make sure the ungrateful person knows dad showed. But I would NOT stop and talk to him.

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Submitted by imthewife on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 5:40pm

Well, I agree with everyone above, but what does the court order say?

SS14 is still a minor. What minor kid of your own would you allow to behave that way?

I completly agree that he is cut off from any support...and maybe BM should be too if she receives any for a while until she grows up and stops allowing such asshole behavior from the kid.

It sounds like SS is a little to up on himself and that DH was actually parenting and gave a consequence for rotten behavior.

tiredout's picture

Submitted by tiredout on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 7:29pm

SS solved the problem for us. DH stupidly called to see if he needed a ride as its technically our night. SS refused so DH said okay, see you at the game. SS response was whatever. So we passed. Ugh. So annoying as this will get twisted around by adult SDs and BM that once again hes an ahole. My opinion is whats it matter they think that either way. He cant win.