When PAS Backfires
It's just one thing after another for me these days. Skids were gone for a week with BM out of town....life was peaceful and resembled some form of normalcy. Well they returned and life is back to being full of drama and stress......DH spent half the day yesterday at work on the phone with BMs and/or SD's....so he comes home stressed of course.....as usual.
So SD12 is PAS'd by BM for almost 2 years...SD16 not PAS'd but not for failed attemps...prior to that zero issues with SD12 staying with us. She hasn't spent the night with us now in almost 2 years.....well unless we go on a vacation then of course it's no problem for her and she doesn't even call BM. haha.
So now I am super annoyed b/c there is drama in my house but also sort of amused that this is happening. For the first time since PAS, BM wants to go out of town alone last minute this weekend so she's in full panic mode. She decided to begin with attempting to strip DH of his weekend with kids so that the kids aunt could stay with them at BM's house....both kids not just the PAS'd one WTF? So of course in DH fashion he is like oh whatever is fine....I dont' want to rock the boat....I won't force her to stay here....blah blah blah. She can stay with aunt...I will give up my weekend....I don't want to upset the poor fragile little thing.
BM then begins saying ....well......how she really wants SD12 to stay with DH this weekend and how she tried to talking to her and telling her that. She's telling DH how SD12 needs to start staying with him....again WTF? She's made it her goal for her NOT to stay over night with DH...but now b/c BM wants to go out of town it's okay. The kid literally has a full on panic attack and starts praying out loud anytime she has "tried' to stay over our house after PAS success. She won't even stay with MIL who basically 1/2 raised her.
BM is telling DH how badly she wants to go out of town....but doesn't know what to do with SD12. Are you kidding me you idiots? She is 12, you are the adults. Tell her you are going out of town and then tell her tough shit she is staying with her dad for the weekend......so skid tells DH that she will stay at our house friday night but wants to stay at BMs with her aunt on Saturday night...oooohhhhkay kid. This is what happens when you give a kid options.
So now in good fashion....we have DH all worked up, MIL is all worked up, I just want to take my kids and leave for the weekend to spare us more drama, SD12 will act like a basketcase starting Friday afternoon......BM will call again and stir things up with DH and he will think this is all normal and fine.
It's the weekend before school starts.....I wanted to just enjoy it and do something fun with all the kids. Am I just wrong for thinkign my DH should have shut her ass down and just said, NO....SD12 will stay with me for the entire weekend b/c its MY weekend not her aunts weekend....end of story??? He is so afraid and it's so annoying that everyone has to suffer.....literally NO drama while these morons were out of town last week.