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I should be going on Vacation next week

Thisisnotus's picture

But no....DH and i planned a make up trip from May...next week. Flights ended up getting changed so we had to cancel.

While I was happy to take the trip it isn't where i wanted to go...I wanted to go to Disney! But I have said on here before DH will not go to Disney without his 13 and 18 year old...cause it's not fair....boohooo....

I mentioned since our flights were changed why don't we go to Disney instead....he ignored it. I got super drunk and screamed at him how it's dumb and unfair to me....I mean I let him have it like bad. It has never been mentioned again.

so now next week skids will be on a vacation with BM and my kids will be with their dad...MIL was looking forward to keeping our toddler for a few days.....but instead DH and I will both be going to work.

Makes perfect sense!

this also happened last year after Christmas...skids were on vacay with BM, my kids were on vacay with their dad....and at home we sat (in vacay from work) because DH ignored my attempts to get in the car and take a ride to Disney for a few days.

 

eta: if we had not already had covid we would not be traveling anywhere...not that I think I'm totally immune...I've just come out of total lockdown after having it.

 

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Aunt Agatha's picture

This pandemic is not about any one of us.  It's about keeping everyone safe.  Sorry, with a sister and BIL who are front line health care workers that I worry about every day as people are getting sick and dying because we are in a pandemic, everyone needs to stay home.

 

tog redux's picture

Yes, thank you - it's about not overwhelming the health care system. Most people survive COVID easily, but those who need to be hospitalized for COVID and other issues won't be able to get the care they need if the hospitals are overrun. Stay home. Even if you think you had it once, stay home.  People focus on the fact that it's "not that bad", but that's not the point. If no one has immunity, then the number of people who will get very sick is still too much for our health care system to handle.

But - honestly - this isn't about COVID or travel, it's about your marriage and how dysfunctional it's become. Would you consider marriage counseling?

SteppedOut's picture

Exactly this on all counts! 

COVID is a wild card...some people don't get sick at all, for some it is like a bad flu, yet for others it is a death sentence.

It is unknown how long immunity lasts after you have it - or if everyone even gets immunity. My older son had it. He works at a hospital. He still has to wear a mask and all other safety protocols.

And unhealthy marriage.... therapy is needed to try and salvage... if not, only you can decide how long you want to keep living unhappily. 

tog redux's picture

I work for a hospital system in one of the lowest COVID states. Our system has daily briefings where they are monitoring the steady climb of hospitalizations.  Our COVID rate is at around 4% and yet our hospitalizations have gone up over 250% in 3 weeks.  Imagine what's happening (or read about it in the news) in high COVID states.

So even if people ARE immune, if they travel to another state and need health care, they are putting a burden on an already overwhelmed system.  And there is no way to know that they are immune, for sure. Are the odds against needing health care in another state? Yes, I suppose so (though it's happened to me), but why take the risk?

I don't get the mindset that it's fine to travel in the middle of a global pandemic, unless you really have to.  Over the summer here, we did do some travel, within state.  But now, with the numbers skyrocketing? Hell no.

Livingoutloud's picture

People traveling on this Thanksgiving is just boggling my mind. Like really?

tog redux's picture

I've been reading a lot of articles about how humans calculate risk. Spoiler: not well, and not based on facts.

BethAnne's picture

That sucks, I'm sorry.

I think it's time to find a different travel partner to go to Disney with you, then go and have a great time without your kid-worshiping husband dragging you down. 

Stepdrama2020's picture

These lousy husbands will always put their lousy kids first. Especially a mini wife. Take it from me, it is a heartache you can do without.

He certainly lets you know where your happiness stands doesen't he? As I have read on here when someone shows you who they are believe them. My marriage ended, I am alone on thanksgiving. Guess what it is going to be the most enjoyable thanksgiving in ten years. You need happiness in your life. I hope you find it.

 

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

And I live down the road from Disney so I didn't fly.  It was really bad.  We went in August before school started and there was no one there.  We just walked right on rides.  It felt really safe to me and we still weren't able to the Star Wars First Order ride or the Mickey and Minnie runaway train ride which is why we went.   We also got heat exhaustion (I thought I was going to have to call for paramedics for DD)  because there were no water fountains as they were all diverted to hand washing stations and it was really hot and we were in masks.  So I thought, let's go back in November and the heat will be gone and it'll be perfect.  Except it wasn't.  IT was so so so crowded.  There is no way that was 30 percent capacity.  Every ride was over an hour and you had to walk a mile to get on that  ride.  Eating in a restaurant was such an ordeal because you had to arrive when the App said you could but then wait in this line outside and then wait in this line at the counter then wait again and then the food was cold.  When i went in August I thought, "there is more people in Walmart.  This feels really safe."  It didn't feel safe in November.  We barely stayed.  It was so crowded.  There were no parades or fireworks or characters or shows and there were huge lines to get in any shop and if you wanted to sit down , just to sit down, another long a$$ hour wait.    There was no just going to the pretzel stand and getting a pretzel either.  Get on the app and try and get a time but they are all taken.  THe monorail wasn't even working.  They took us from the ticket and transportation system to Magic Kingdom on a bus.  It sucked so bad I'm not renewing our annual pass.  They definitely act liked it wouldn't be crowded because you had to make a reservation.  It was so so so crowded.  There are no trams cause of COVID so you hike two miles from your car and once I saw what it was like in there, we hiked the two miles back to the car and drove home.    

I think Disney can be fun for adults during Epcot's Food and Wine festival.  I've had a really good time pre Covid at that.  I used to really love their fine dining experiences and this time every year we would go to the Grand Floridian and see the giant ginger bread house and then hop over on the monorail to the Polynesian and get a Dole Whip but all of what made Disney fun for me as an adult is gone right now due to Covid.  It's just crowds and waiting.  We would go to the Christmas Party and the Mickey's Not So Scary Halloween party every year and it was the best time but all of that is canceled.  I like pin trading and there is no pin trading.

Post Covid Disney is yuck in my opinion and I'm letting my annual passes expire in January.    

Wilhelm's picture

In Australia every time covid cases build we have shut down businesses where people congregate . At the moment we have barely any cases other than among returned travellers.