I’ve been able to derive certain things about the “Golden Uterus” and 2nd wife, or in my case, 2nd relationship.

I have to mention that my whole life, I’ve been supporting myself, my biochildren without the aid of CS and both of my ex-husbands, sometimes holding down 2 or 3 jobs to do so. Hell I even breastfed my bios and pumped milk for when I was at work.

I taught my children extra learning material so they’d be at the top of their classes. I took them to church routinely and instilled morals, values and manners.

By contrast, the BM was truly a stay-in-bed mom (no offense to those TRUE SAHMs that are doing a good job) and to this day is a pig living in a pig stye. She didn’t cook, clean or perform child care her entire married “career.” To this day she feeds her family a solid diet of drive-thru fast food.

Her children have been and are still to this day failing academically. And I mean failing BIG TIME not just low marks. Not a problem since BM doesn’t require schoolwork, homework or class attendance.

Meanwhile, her ex-husband’s both quality and quantity of “fix it” skills are declining ever so rapidly each day at my house. He pays almost all his income to the BM in CS leaving little to nothing left to help me.

Yet he perceives himself to be a “major help” to me, demanding more and more little (expensive) luxuries for himself; often telling me "He's WORTH it!" And at the same time, expecting more and MORE and MORE from me every day, often allowing me to do “man’s work” and to have me pitch in with the “man’s work,” often treating me like a man.

So it comes down to this:

1. Biodad has few expectations for the BM yet many, many expectations for SM
2. Biodad has few expectations for HIS children yet many, many expectations for SM’s children
3. Biodad had many expectations for himself when living with the BM yet very few expectations for himself when living with SM (although having delusions of grandeur)

I’m not sure this all falls under “do a little more each day and each day a little more will be expected.”