Last time I updated, DH received a call from SD9 saying she was going to go live with BM's mom next school year. He didn't have the whole story yet, but was agitated that there was apparently some sort of conversation about it that he was not involved in.

We picked the girls up on Friday and on Saturday I spent pretty much the whole day with SD9 doing Christmas errands. I couldn't help myself but to ask her casually what's this about her living with her grandma. She proceeds to tell me that all her stuff is packed and she has already transferred schools and will be going to the new school come January and that her sister will be joining her after the school year. She starts going on and on about how her grandma has tv's in every room and she'll have her own bathroom, etc., but at this point I've gotten all the info I need.

When I get home I inform DH of what SD9 has told me and he said he had a similar convo with SD11. Supposedly SD9 and her mom have not been getting along. SD9 needs alot of attention but all her mother does is smoke and drink and doesn't spend any time with them (this was actually told to us both by each girl individually). BM and SD9 got into it and BM told her "I can't handle you any more. I'm sending you to live with your grandmother!" And so it goes.

DH is contacting a lawyer today to see what his rights are. He thinks that as their father he should be the one that gets them if she can't handle them, not her parents. Of course, that would mean she would have to surrender her CS check and heaven knows that ain't gonna happen.

On another note, SD11 told DH that their mother is terrible with money. She has been living on credit and she never checks the mail so the only time they know a bill is due is when collectors start calling or when their service gets cut off. She has a job as a teacher and gets $1650 from us each month. There are whole families who can make it off $1650/month alone. Of course, those families don't have a $2000/month nanny to do all their parenting for them....