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Dear wife says shes given SS the launch date

swimming in gratitude's picture

Dear wife says shes given my SS the launch date. At least that's what she claims. I haven't posted anything in months since there was nothing new to report. I have been asking the dear wife that we talk to SS about moving out before he turns 23 which is next June.
It seemed to me as if she would never broach the subject with SS. Well she says she has. Even the fact that next June will be his birthday and he will be 23 and he has to move out.
I plan on bringing it up with him while we are on the deck having a smoke. I am hoping against hope that dear wife has not lied to my face about it.
Both my Stepsons are over 21 and show no signs at all of moving out and I'm just so sick and tired of both of them.
Any comments will be welcomed.

Swimming in gratitude.

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Indigo's picture

Did your DW actually mention "WHEN" this launch will happen? It sounds very, very vague and as if she is just trying to get you off her back.

Your spouse repeatedly ignores, disrespects and devalues you. Sorry. Your spouse is crippling these adult men by not allowing them to mature and leave the nest. They're comfortable, so why should they change or move?

I would not be surprised to discover you posting in 6 months that pregnant girlfriends and a few pit bulls are added to your household. It's difficult to stand up and say "no more."

This is about your wife's fears. Fears of an empty nest, fears of growing older, fears of no longer being necessary to someone, fears of irrelevancy, fears of ... whatever. Her fears are seriously hurting the boys. Counseling? You can't change her; you can't change the boys, but you can change yourself.

furkidsforme's picture

My DH is SO lucky. SD didn't launch until she was 24, but I really enjoyed her and she was a good student and had a great work ethic so I didn't mind one bit. She could stay as long as she needed.

Thank god SS18 got into a University. He's a bother and a half. Even if he's flunking, I will PAY to keep him there.

Indigo's picture

Important caveats. Young adults help around house, pull their weight, go to college/work full-time (any combination), or pay rent/utilities after age 18 ... and, do not disrupt the household excessively.