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The End Of LazyAssBMSupport Is Sooo Close I Can Taste It !!!

Sweetnothings's picture

Hi StepTalkers, DH is very close to the end of LABMS ( end of the Year !! ) that I can taste it !!! I don't know how things are going to pan out, as recently younger skid has fallen off the radar ( hmmm.... ) Though DH would rather walk hot coals, I think, than have a big old discussion about finding a job, etc, etc !! Wouldn't want to hurt his feelings so he would stop contacting him !! ( I think it's going to happen anyway, as well the moneytrain is stopping VERY soon !! )

DH was crunching the old numbers and if it all goes ahead without too much trouble, he could start saving a lot more, a lot more regularly !!!

I didn't really chat too much with him about the stopping of CS, as I don't want to be sucked in again, and what with sd22's payments stopping early next year too, I may save the celebration to them, though I am sorely tempted tocrack open some bubbly and crank up some party music!

Countdown is finally here, LABMS has been paid for since younger skid was a Toddler !!!

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z3girl's picture

Congrats! Are you doing anything now (court filings, etc) to get ready for it? The light is at the end of the tunnel for us too. SD21 will be graduating from college in May, so we're thinking that DH should find an attorney in January to get ready. I'll be happy when the last tuition bill is paid because CS is almost chump change compared to tuition. It's like winning the lottery!

dontcallmestepmom's picture

Definitely get an early start-January sounds fine. It can take a little time with the paperwork. GOOD LUCK!

dontcallmestepmom's picture

Congrats!!!!!!! CS ended for us a couple of months ago. Knowing that BM is not spending DH's hard-earned money on lottery tickets, cigarettes, and fast food is such a great feeling. She is still refusing to work, as are the skids, so I do not want to know how they are surviving.

12yrstepmonster's picture

We finally just got judgement on stopping support for SD21.

Though dh was screwed again in support for one kid. Whatever. But we have 2 yrs until he's off to college. Yippee....

Sweetnothings's picture

No, we don't have to go to Court. The Skid lives in a different country to us. DH rang them recently to see what the status is on his case. He has been acceptionally responsible and NEVER missed any CS payments in all these years. He has been reaccessed over the years with CS climbing up everytime ( annoys me that HE was but when BM finally !! Got a full time job, she was not,except for applying for all those ' single working parent perks ' AND getting them ALL !! ( different rules for different parents, so unfair !!)

So excited, just hoping BM doesn't have a meltdown, because it seemed a- okay to her to let the skid sit around for over 18 months since leaving school while she was getting the CS ( that's a joke this kid is 19 !!) when that stops and she sees what she has allowed to happen ( skid lives at home with her, always has ) she may kick skid out. Who wants to place bets that if that happens then suddenly DH WILL be needed again !! If not for his wallet, the crazy BM may decide it's time to ship skid to us !!

Not going to happen, DH and I have already decided that. Not having these ADULTS living with us !!! If you are old enough to smoke, drink, stay out all night, BM has even resorted to Fakebook pleas, if anyone has seen skid when they disappear for a day or two, no boundaries there and the karma is beginning to knock on her door !!!

misSTEP's picture

LOVE that - LazyAssBMSupport - because you KNOW it isn't for the children!

In our case, that is absolutely true. The oldest got kicked out within a month of her 18th birthday. Unfortunately, because of the way the CO was written, DH is STILL paying the same amount for one as he had for two. BM is not helping SD out at all - except by watching her grandson - which SD PAYS her for - and gets reimbursed by the government as well!

BUT the gravy train is stopping at Karma station the end of May next year! We already have the paperwork stating this, with BM's signature notorized!!