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Super Step-Mommy's picture

Well FH got a phone call yesterday from BM's mom (we'll call her Bio Grand-Mom). Anyway, BGM called FH livid because SD2 called her BM fat. BM is a plus-sized woman, and has had issues with this all of her life. Now although, BM is a crazy witch sometimes, I would NEVER condone this type of behavior from SD2. Apparently, BGM was yelling and screaming at FH because she is just SO SURE that SD2 learned it at our house (and most likely from me). Never mind the fact that half the time she's in BM's care, SD2 is at one fo BM's friend's houses (who have questionable character and questionable loyalties to BM) or stuck in front of a TV screen where she learns who knows what!!! For some reason BM and her mother think that I spend my days thinking of different ways to bad-mouth BM and turn her daughter against her (this is in between me cooking, and cleaning, and potty training,reading, bathing, and nap time of course).I would NEVER tell SD2 to say ANYTHING mean to anyone especially her BM!! We don't even mention BM's name in our home unless SD2 asks to call mommy. Apparently BGM and BM thinks everyone is as vindictive and partially evil as BM seems to be 95% of the time. AND I'M NOTHING BUT NICE TO BM EVERY TIME I SEE HER!! (although she has yet to return the favor)

It just seems as if everything bad that SD2 does, BM and her mom think she learned at our house...WHICH IS STUPID! When she was younger, and learning to talk, she used to make grunting noises and BM had the nerve to accuse FH and I of having sex in front of SD2 (how crazy is that?!?). Lately SD2 has been throwing tantrums when she doesn't get her way and saying no a lot and BGM called FH again to accuse us of teaching SD2 to be mean...SHE'S 2 FOR GOODNESS SAKES!!! (they don't cal it terrible twos for nothing!

Furthermore, why the hell is BGM inserting herself into the non-issue which has NOTHING to do with her.

I guess all I can do is laugh at this point to keep from going crazy....
Does anyone else have this problem where BM blames you for the rain in the sky?

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vgill's picture

Laugh, and laugh some more!! that's all you can do, and yes SD2 behaviour is normal, I have 4 kids of my own and temper tantrums are normal. As for her calling her BM fat,just wait 10 years, she'll be calling her a bitch! LOl!!! sorry I know she'll probably be a wonderfull and respect ful girl in 10 years but, just calmly think to yourself that the reason BM, and BGM are so interested and concerned is that they have nothing going on in their own lives and there should be nothing to get mad about BM is fat, the little girl wasn't lying!!! LOL!!! Oh have a better day today O.K Hun, it only gets more interesting from here on out!!!

Super Step-Mommy's picture

LOL!!! Thanx for this post! It has REALLY brightened my day :). And I'm wondering how much more interesting this can get...I know now that I'm in for a ride!

Positive Thoughts. Positive Actions

-Peace

Super Step-Mommy's picture

You are so right! I'm still trying to find the line between setting boundaries and cursing her to the high heavens. my FH told BGM in no uncertain terms to mind her own business...I hope she takes heed.

Positive Thoughts. Positive Actions

-Peace

soverysad's picture

Wingnut blames us for everything wrong in both her and Creature's life and pats herself on the back for everything good. Get used to it and laugh it off. Hell, dh got blamed for Wingnut's father's heart attack 18 months AFTER he left Wingnut. DH hadn't seen or spoken to the man in that long either. I guess 45 years of smoking and eating crap and dealing with a narcissistic wife and daughter had absolutely NOTHING to do with his hearts.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.

Super Step-Mommy's picture

My sentiments exactly...lol

Positive Thoughts. Positive Actions

-Peace

soverysad's picture

She's effed up, what can I say?

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.

stormabruin's picture

It's the innocent honesty in children. If BM is fat, she is. SD2 is 2. She'll tell you what she sees. It's just one of those things where the truth hurts, but it doesn't make it any less true. You can hardly scold a 2 year old for their honesty... Smile