BM and I have never been on talking terms, she has always done her best to act as if I don't exist. It's worked well for the past 5 years, but recently she decided to call DH and tell him to tell me that I needed to "back the f*** off" regarding an issue we were having with SD14.

Keep in mind that conflict avoidance is one of my biggest issues that I am working to overcome.

So, instead of being content with his reaction to her (which was something along the lines of "I will support the decision she made, but ill talk to her") I decided to confront her, and let her know that I will continue to be involved in any issues that directly affect myself, my daughter, or the safety of my home. I told her that I didn't appreciate her attitude towards me and that if she had something to say, she needed to say it to me, not DH.

I of course, mentally braced myself for the explosion that I was sure would be her reaction.... and then... she apologized!

I have always been quick to rationalize my way out of conflict, I guess I'm just happy that I actually stood up for myself and it had positive results. Woo hoo! Go me!