Why does it seem kids always side with BM?
SS had a bad habit of bringing things up regarding things that happened between DH & BM through their separation for the sake of argument. One example: When skids were small, BM accused DH of slapping her & she filed for a protective order. DH wasn't allowed at their house. When DH's father passed away he left DH all of his tools. DH kept them locked in the garage. SS watched BM break the window of the garage so she could get to his tools & she sold them to the men she was sleeping with at the time...4 of DH's "friends". A couple of years ago DH made a comment about having to take my Jeep in to have a part replaced & SS says, "Dad, I thought you knew how to fix cars. Seems like if you knew how to fix cars you'd use your own tools to fix Stormabruin's Jeep". DH says, "SS, the only tools I have now are the ones Stormabruin has gotten me over the time we've been together. I used to have what I needed, but I don't have the money to buy the kinds of tools I used to have". SS says, "Why dad? What happened to your tools?". DH simply states, "Son, you know what happened to my tools. We've talked about this". SS says, "Oh yeah. Someone stole them & sold them to your friends. Who was it again?" As soon as DH mentions it was BM, SS gets defensive & pissed & says, "Dad, that happened in the past. Can't we just leave it there & move forward?" & then he'd act offended & shut down. So, even though he witnessed it all & knows who effed who, he still feels the need to push DH to anger & defend BM. If it's in the past, why bring it up? Why lead the conversation to a point you know is going to piss you off? BM can have boyfriends coming in & out of their home & skids will take to them like they're family, yet they couldn't care less about their own dad. BM walked out of their lives. When I met them, they were terribly hurt & felt that somehow she just didn't love them enough. Now, they've done the same thing to DH & they seem to feel like he just doesn't deserve their attention. I don't understand their way of thinking.