Disengaging from BM
I made a decision this weekend, that whilst I'm still going to be very much engaged with SS10, as far as BM is concerned I just don't want to know!
She managed to get me going three times this weekend, without me even seeing her, once when I discovered she booked SS10 onto a half day course on a weekend we're supposed to have him, once when she turned down our offer to swap days around so she could have him on mother's day (what mum doesn't want to see her only child on mother's day???) and once when she was still in bed at 10am in the morning, and SS10 got a sharp knife in the foot cos it had been left out in the kitchen all night!
However, by letting her get to me like this I'm not going to achieve anything - I can say to my OH how frustrated I am, but I can never change how she is.
Therefore, I'm going to disengage from BM completely, whenever she is mentioned the fingers are in the ears and I'm singing (metaphorically speaking). The one caveat here is obviously if I feel SS10's welfare is at stake, which sometimes I think it is.
I know it's not going to be easy because I'm basically trying to change the way I think, and I'll probably have to bite my tongue to not comment on things or ask questions about why. Wish me luck!