Relationship or Dealings with BM's Mother?
Hmmm... So, BM's biological mother is in town visiting BM. BM was adopted as a baby but looked up and found her biomom when she was a teenager and they've had a good relationship ever since. Anyway, so she's here visiting BM and company. SS10 is giddy because he loves BM's mom, only sees her once a year (she lives on the west coast, we live on the east coast), he's missing a day of school to do a whole day's worth of quality time with BM's mom (and potential spoiling) which I understand since she only sees him once a year, not thrilled about him missing a day of school with all of his learning issues, but whatever, not my problem. From what I've heard from FH and FH's family, she really is a lovely, kind woman. Maybe if she had raised BM, she wouldn't be as f-ed up in the head as she is.
BM, her mom and SS10 had to pick up SS10's stuff from FH's work once they picked up SS10 from school (it's BM's EOWE anyway). FH hadn't seen BM's mom in more than five years. When he saw her, BM's mom said she really wanted to meet me and my DD11, that she was really happy for us (we're getting married in a couple of weeks). So FH wants me and DD11 to go with him when we pick up SS10 this Sunday at the exchange spot so that we can meet BM's mom. I feel kinda weird about it because I don't know why she'd want to meet me. I'm just SS10's stepmother and half the time, I feel like and get treated like dirt even though I take care of him more than either of his two biological parents.
I'm sure I'll be just fine. I've seen pictures of her (BM and SS10 look EXACTLY like her) and despite any awkwardness I may feel internally (because she's BM's mom), I can't be anything BUT polite and nice when I meet her. I know myself too well and my parents raised me too well to be anything but that way.
So I want to know, what has been your experience as a stepmom or stepdad meeting the BM's or BF's parents / XILs?