I got an email from OH this morning to say SS10 had run off because he didn't want to go to school. I was in a meeting so didn't get it for a couple of hours, at which point he'd turned up again (he says he wasn't feeling well, so went for a walk down to the local football team's stadium - about a 4 mile round trip!)

It's brought home for me the powerlessness I have - OH will be going to talk to him tonight with BM, and as ever, my opinions aren't even asked for.

SS10 has really started acting out recently - running off, having complete, lose control, rages etc, and I'm here on the side lines.

Last time he ran off he was grounded, but as the following weekend we were going up to his grandparents, we didn't enforce the grounding whilst up there. We're due to have him weekend coming, and I want to make sure that whatever punishment is meted out we follow too... but if I'm going to have to help enforce it I do think I should at least be consulted in what it's going to be.

I want the best for this kid, and in my opinion that includes serious punishment for serious wrongdoings - however, I know if I leave it to OH it'll be half-baked at most when he's with us (OK, you can't go out, but you can play on the computer as much as you like etc)

Help!