When it comes to ss19 I am so disengaged these days. I cannot stand that kid. We forgot to look our door a couple times a couple weeks ago, I was sorting through things in my room when I noticed my big bottle of vodka I bought at costco for a party was gone. Yup, you guessed it, ss19 came into the house and took it. Lately I have noticed that every time he comes over, about 3-5 times a week he always is petting the dog and making best buds with him, he ignored the dog always before, and got to thinking he is making sure that dog loves him so he can break in and take stuff when he can. So I got house keys cut for ss16 and bs15 so that we can lock up tight every day. Ss19 has stolen so much from us, like when I had a severe bladder infection 3 months ago the doc prescribed vicodin for my pain, 20 pills, and I did not use them but thought it'd be good to save them for say a tooth ache or something sever in the future and went to look for them a few days ago for dh when he was in a lot of pain from chemo, and those pills are no where to be found. DH KNOWS ss19 comes in and steals. When ever he is over we grab and pocket DH's chemo pain pills and anything else that might catch his eye. It's so sad.

Anyhow in answer to stick a fork, yes dh gave him the money for the chew, and I just rolled my eyes. Not my kid, not my problem.

Yesterday though I took my bs17's xbox to PakMail and got it packaged up and sent it to him even though dh kept saying bs should save his money and buy one there or just take this one when he comes to visit, bla bla bla. Also I packed all bs's xbox games to send with it and ss16 is not going to be happy cuz he was using them all and dh will find out I sent the console but at this point I dont give a rats ass b/c he does so much for his kids that are stupid. My son is getting an education and doing a fine job while at it like he got promoted to dorm leader last week and this week he is getting up at 4:45am every morning to take leadership classes. I mean this is huge for my son and he is starting on his welding classes this week after a month of entry exams. I am proud of my kid! So sending him his xbox for $50 is a small little thing so he can enjoy his weekends and not miss home so much.

Oh and one thing I am most proud of with both of my boys, they are not blaming the divorce btw exh and me on any of their bad behaviors or using it as an excuse to misbehave or not do well in school. Both of my ss's use their parent's divorce to excuse their bad grades or poor behaviors. It irks me to no end.