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Things I feel about BM......

StepLady's picture

BM has let herself go! Must be a about four hundred lbs, I have no care how she looks but it is no good example for the sks! They are both heavy now too! She is too lazy to cook and she wastes her money on fast food instead of groceries. She gets way more than most in CS but applied for foodstamps and other aid and was pissed off she was turned down. She only works part time, so if you are broke and can not pay for food get more hours! In her field she can get more hours easily! Her husband should be working instead he sits at home playing video games and watching tv. They have cable but can not get food? Horrible!

BM constaly expects extra money for kids for this or that we have no problem with that but will just pay for things not give her cash! The only crap she signs them up for is stuff that interfers with our time that we will not be taking kids to due to ther kids (traveling footbal?) We have other kids in the home! We will not be traveling to hotels and paying for them on our time! It is not fair to everyone else! My daughter has a travel sport, I pay for it and only I go, she was in this sport long before I met DH and my ex pays for his half. My ex when he can does take her or his parents take their turn too! If my sister is in town she enjoys her turn as well. BM wants us to do ALL payments and ALL travel! Also SS does not want to to do it! He is plump and sensitive and not interested in traveling with athletic kids who have played for years and I do not blame him! We countered her offer with a swim class that he said he was interested in, non competitive, families welcome, well she sent brochure back with "I will be there in my swim suit and so will SD!" Why would we pay for all of them to take the class? So that got shot down, we do not want to go swimming with her! So did she take over and handle it? No way, he just did not go swimming, sad! We did not have him on all the swim days so it made no sense for us to pay for the whole thing but only take him a few times and him not learning and missing out.
When DH and BM split up she took items that belonged to DH's other kids, just to be cruel. Never returned items! Then SS is sent here with their old toys or cloths, very nasty behavior!
I pick up kids from school when it is DH days since he works, I have my DD there with me. She has pulled them early so they can not come with me, or sends her mother who makes bizarre scenes with kids. It is court order I AM allowed to pick up for him! She lets kids stay home at her whims they are often absent, we think she can not get up on time due to drinking.......

She smells horrible, no hygene, kids often smell and are unwashed. CPS already been involved with her in the past.

What a mess this woman is!

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StepLady's picture

Nokidding! But mostly kids were lucky... Can you imagine? Getting in the pool when you are heavy, your sister is heavy and so is mom and she hates your dad? Would have been so upsetting and uncomfortable for everyone!