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Court No Use. BM Violting CO & SK Not Going to School

StepDeux's picture

It's been a while since I've posted. I've been on this whole kick of not trying to focus on the neagtive, but sometimes there's nothing you can do.

Even though BM showed up in Court and told the judge she understood she was expected to comply with the Court Order, she has flat out failed to do it. In fact, she has stopped taking SD to school if it falls during the CO'd visitation to be sure that SO can't get her! :jawdrop:

I have no idea how she thinks she'll get away with this. I mean, really... The only thing that she has is so far the Court hasn't done anything and the contempt trial isn't for another 5 months. So, basically the Court has told her she can do whatever she flippin' wants from now until then! Supposidly her attorney told her that she should comply with the order, but I'm sure she won't listen.

There is still the small hope that the next custody/visitation hearing will yield some results. She is not represented by counsel for that (only the contempt) and SO is, so that should be in his favor some. Also, all this crazy business of not bringing SD to school will probably make her look terrible.

It really sucks that SO has been doing every single thing asked of him and this evil, tacky woman gets to just make her own rules. I seriously hope they throw her in jail. We already know what her argument will be and, to me, if you think that the other parent is unfit or a danger to your child, you file something IN COURT! You don't ignore the CO and feel like you can just show up and the Court will grant you mercy. I seriously think they should put her UNDER the jail.

Not to mention poor SD and SO. Who knows when they next time they will see each other. It has already been a couple of months. BM is sick in the head and it's funny how self-righteous she is when her entire life is a freaking joke and is totally a mess. If she hadn't accidently gotten knocked up one night she'd probably still be a drug addict and homelss or else a whore. And, sadly, I'm not even joking.

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evilstepmommy's picture

My BM thinks that we should pay for half of anything she buys for the kids and allows them to bring to our house. My DH reminds her constantly that CS and half of childcare are the only things he has to pay half of unless its something they agree to share/split cost of before the purchase is made.

If your BM chooses an activity/purchase/trip on her time, then it is her dollar.

StepDeux's picture

She isn't required to be in school full-time as a matter of law until she is six so kindergarten doesn't really count legally. Although, in reality, it means that when SD does go to 1st grade she will not be at the same level as other kids who actually went to kindergarten.

Also, the school told SO today that SD doesn't even go to school on a regular basis at all. :jawdrop:

skylarksms's picture

How can the courts expect the public to have ANY respect for them whatsoever if they allow people to NOT follow court orders????!??!!!

I could never understand that. Sometimes I think justice is only for rich people (who can afford to go to court every time a CO is violated).

caya506's picture

To me letting someone off the hook for not following a court order is as ridiculous as letting someone off scott free for breaking a law! How many people would be up in arms if a judge said 'Well it is your first time driving drunk so we're going to just let you go. Just don't do it again' Makes absolutely no sense!

StepDeux's picture

Well, it's not that they have "allowed" her not to follow them, per se, but it's all the b/s hoopla that they put people through. The Court could very well find her guilty of contempt, however that will be MONTHS after this whole process started. The paperwork was filed last year and the hearing on the contempt isn't until the end of the summer!

In the meantime, there is nothing we can do but call the cops. And we have called the cops however we live in a large metro area and it usually takes the cops HOURS to show (if they ever do).

The system is very flawed.

Tx mommy of 3's picture

Well I'd still document everyhing so when the contempt court dare occurs, you have documentation. Document each and everytime she keeps skid from dad. Get school records of the attendance records and how many days she has missed as well as what dates she missed so they can see the pattern of her missing just to avoid dad's pickup. Although they may not give real grades in kinder, surely they still give some sort of tests or something to show a kid's progression (or lack of) throughout the year. Get copies of that as well as any letter from the school/teacher on kid's lack of progression, etc. If they do have report cards or progress reports, have copies of that. Even start havin dh call to talk to skid more often or make attempts to see her more. Even though bm will prob avoid the calls an not allow visitation, it will be one more instance that can be documented as bm refusing contact with dh. Good luck and keep us updated.