Cell bill confirms and proves I am right
I finally went to my cell phone account online and printed out all the calls made by ss16 this last billing month for dh. Ss16 makes a call to his gf21 nearly every night, length of calls ranging anywhere from 44 minutes to 494 minutes long. One night it looks like he called about 9:30 and was on the phone til just before our alarm goes off at 6am. No wonder he gets up acting like he is on drugs. Two nights ago I heard ss at 2am on a school night and the night before his wrestling meet (which he didn't beat), told DH to get up and tell him to get to sleep, but by the time dh was out the door and opened ss's door the dead would have woken. Ss hid the phone and even pretended snoring, and DH believed him over me? Anyhow, now I have EVIDENCE!! He cannot deny a paper bill showing times, length and number called. I sense big trouble for him coming b/c he will lose his phone and he will get very angry b/c for some odd reason this girl has him in her grip. But of course she can be up all night talking, she works a part time job and still lives with daddy and mommy and has no responsibilities. I like her but I cannot believe she is doing this to ss.
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I went thru something similar
I went thru something similar when my SD was16. When she was living with us her BM decided to buy a phone for her. I heard her on the phone after the cut off time, I went into the room that she shared with my BD & told her to get off of the phone & to be a better example. She freaked & told me that since her BM bought the phone for her I couldnt control what she did with it. Was this kid serious? I got my husband out of bed & he tried to take it from her, she refused & started to hit him. In the end he took the phone & broke it into 2 & told her to get out. She left but then came back a few months later when her BM couldn t handle her crap. She's 21 now with a 1 yr old & she expects my DH to jump when ever she wants. He basically says how high.
My advice to you is to make sure that your husband confronts him with the bill. He's going to be very angry when his phone is taken away & you dont want him to take it out on you.
Good Luck.
Well lucky for me it's free
Well lucky for me it's free verizon to verizon minutes, unlucky for him he has been told several times to be in bed asleep by 11, told if he's on the phone after 11 he loses it, but DH has never had PROOF and dumb me has never thought to hand him a printed-out bill with all the numbers called from ss's phone.
For once I can stir up trouble (like ss16 always does) and then quietly "hide" and see what transpires! }:)
This is similar to DH and BM.
This is similar to DH and BM. He was barely 19, and she was 24. When I was 24, I wouldn't have given a second glance to a boy who was only 19!!
Definitely something wrong with that girl.
I ask DH that every once in
I ask DH that every once in awhile and he says he married his high school sweet heart when he shouldn't have all b/c his dad tried everything to stop him (that marriage lasted one yr and produced one baby), so he thinks if he lets this go ss16 will find someone else. When ss16 was 15 they were sneaking out at night and having sex. When I confronted ss (DH was sick with cancer so I had to parent for a few months) he slammed the doors so hard (bedroom and front) they both broke off their hinges.
I KNOW ss16's NOT going to be happy about this b/c he has gotten used to getting away with so much. He is always complaining to his dad that I am bossy and controlling, uhm yes, that's how moms are supposed to be. I am always talking to my two boys, holding them accountable and correcting and guiding. Bs18 still lives here and is very respectful and kind, even towards dh and ss16.
See my post below. There are
See my post below. There are parental limits but I think it depends on your cell provider. I limit my BS14.
Time to call the cops on
Time to call the cops on GF21. She is a stautory rapist and it is time to end this bullshit.
IMHO of coure.
This is a particularly sensitive issue for me. My DW was a 16yo teen mom and the Sperm Idiot was 22. If my ILs had put that slimy POS in prison the first time he layed a hand on their daughter they would have saved many people a lot of pain and drama. Fortunately my DW is of amazing character. Though the high school administration attempted to get her to drop out and go to teen mom GED classes she graduated with her class with honors, finished a dual major BS with honors, an MBA with honors and is a CPA.
The Sperm Idiot went on to spawn 3 more out of wedlock children with two more baby mamas. He lives rent free in the Sperm Grandparents rental property, they paid his CS obligation for my SS and for spawn #2 and raise the younger three spawn in their home with no help from their idiot son.
So, before your SS16 ends up spawning with the 21yo perve put her ass in prison.
Good luck.
this: Time to call the cops
this:
Time to call the cops on GF21. She is a stautory rapist and it is time to end this bullshit
Um, 21 yr old girl? What
Um, 21 yr old girl? What does she want with a 16 yr old boy? Statutory rape is right - hello?
Anyway, proof is always good. As long as DH doesn't go and share that you were the one that gave him the proof, then it will just make you out to be the bad guy.
Good luck with him - 16 yr olds are never easy.
Depending on who your cell
Depending on who your cell phone coverage is with you might be able to put parental limits on the cell phone. I have AT&T and for $5 a month I can limit who calls my son, who he can call, what time the phone will actually work and what times it will automatically go off. Can also limit texting. It was worth it because my son was using his phone at school and getting it taken away. I then had to go to the school to get it back. Now it is off all day when school is in session and shuts down at 11 PM every night. Worth checking into and you don't have to go through the whole "he couldn't call because you took his phone" thing.
Why is your DH allowing the
Why is your DH allowing the 21 year old predator with his kid...Sorry, but this is wrong and that should be stopped. Me, I would at the very least cut off his phone and ground his ass until the year end....
you said verizon? oh yes
you said verizon? oh yes hunny it's like 5 bucks but there are parental controls! you can cut EVERYTHING off during timeframes of your choosing, and if it's a smart phone you can unplug the router so he cant text/internet overnight off the wifi.
the best part is, you can have safe #s that he can call or text even during a blocked out timeframe. like just you and DH.
we do this with oss- blocked out on school days from 7a to 3p, and off at night from 10p to 6a. so basically he can use his phone for an hour before school, then after school until bedtime. and that's IT. }:)
ETA- but he's got a few numbers he can contact during the day in case of emergency.
I’m wondering. Isn’t it
I’m wondering. Isn’t it illegal for a 21 year old to be dating a 16 year old?
Our BM tried to get SD16's BF
Our BM tried to get SD16's BF in trouble for statutory and he had just turned 18. I am pretty sure that this is illegal although certain states list the age of consent differently. I would check into it.