BF's Toxic Son 3
Soooo not really sure how to get on with SS's GF. He always makes excuses for them not spending time with me and BF, her apparent anxiety with meeting new people (they've been together for 3 months now and she comes to stay over every weekend) they spend the whole time in his bedroom, even eat in there). Please read previous blog posts to understand my relationship with him.
But everytime I'm away seeing my family, him and his gf conveniently manage to spend time with my bf. I've barely said more than hi how are you to her.
My bf's son has some issue with me, he's always treated me poorly and with so much disrespect despite me doing so much for him, caring for him, looking after him etc. Any time he wanted his gf at the time to come over to the house for the first time he would make sure I'm away at my family's house first. Whenever they spend time with my bf its always without me.
Just some context I have a big age gap between me and Bf, im 28 and he is 52. We have been together for 6 years. I met his son when he was 10 and is now 16. He has always been naughty and cheeky but I passed it off when he was younger, though as he got older he became more rude and disrespectful. Since having a relationship he's been even worse with me. Saying I'm not his family, or that he's never listened to me and never will etc. Because of how he's been with me I have recently stopped caring or bothering about him. I barley speak to him unless I have to.
His gf and I haven't even had a normal conversation and I don't know what to talk to her about because I haven't spent even 2 minutes with them when she's here. But she's spoken to his alcoholic mother several times and has her number. His mum lives in another city and hasn't seen him physically in years, never cares for him or sends him birthday or christmas gifts. Over the last year they have been getting really close because she's starting to use him for her own benefits in the future, she wants to build a relationship with him now he's older and trying her best with his gf too. That was until she called them up drunk and was shouting at them, telling them off for no reason.
Yet I'm the one who gets treated like a nobody after all the care and support I've given him.
My question is, how do I deal with this situation and get to know his gf when I don't really talk to him anymore? My bf is kind of stuck in the middle of this and I don't want him to feel like he has to choose between them and me.