It's never enough
I have never posted on here before . . . actually just stumbled on the site because I have had a pit in my stomach for hours and don't know where else to vent my frustration.
A brief history: I am the SM of 4 children and have 2 biological. My SK range from 34-18 with two different mothers. I have had a fairly affectionate relationship with all 4. I am not the mothering type and have let me husband deal with most of the drama. The older 2 SK have families of their own and there has not been drama in a long time. It is the second set of SK that have been a constant thorn in my side. I have footed 1/2 of all of bills for all the things his ex decided her kids "needed" . . . cars, $50,000 in college tuition, a semester abroad, etc. On top of that we have also vacationed extensively with them -- Europe, Central America, Disney, etc. That being said, my family is significantly more financially comfortable than my husband's or his ex's or ourselves for that matter. My family has paid for trips for my family (me, husband, BKs) out of their pocket. This has been a constant source of contention with my 1 of my SK who is 23 years old and feels that she is entitled to come with us even though paying for her and her sister would be impossible and grossly unfair because if we pay for them shouldn't we pay for the older two SKs. She is constantly complaining that we never think of despite all we have done with her and her sister over the years.
The current drama:
My family booked a trip to visit youngest SK. We did not ask older SK23 because she had told me on a previous occasion that she was planning on going on the same trip with her boyfriend 2 months after our trip. She found out and is now not speaking to my husband because we did not invite her or check to see if she wanted to come.
Is she right? Are we thoughtless?
I would also like to bring up the fact that my husband is not the slightest bit concerned about all of this -- his answer "she'll get over it"
It is totally unfair that his family drama is tying my stomach into knots. Does anyone have any good suggestions for disconnecting?