Vacation without stepkids?
Would you feel bad for not taking your step kids on vacation? I’ve always included them on every trip.
Aside from clinginess and not being able to occupy themselves for any time at all they’ve always been nice to have around and I wanted them to feel included and part of the family. But YSD was SUCH a nightmare on a trip this summer that I’m starting to feel like I would like to do some vacations without having to deal with her drama 100 percent of the time. The trip wasn’t cheap and I found myself resentful of forking out that much money to deal all of her BS. Her dad found her even more trying than I did, and tried to check her behaviour but nothing seemed to work. She was downright nasty to my daughter every time she thought she was out of earshot, cried to go home constantly and when activities weren’t geared towards her 100 percent of the time she made us all VERY aware of how unhappy she was.
She’s going through a real phase of scorekeeping right now, constantly comparing and complaining that my kids (who live here) have more stuff than her (they do, they live here, she doesn’t). So I feel like this could backfire. But I just want some nice family memories with my kids and not to have to deal with her crap.
For the most part we have done a pretty good job of the blended family thing but it’s never been this hard because she wasn’t such an asshole before.
I feel a bit unfair on OSD, who has been an angel lately as I would also have to exclude her, through no fault of her own. She has also had enough of her sister and tells her that she’s acting like a crazy person (cue more hysterics from YSD, sigh!)