Why lie about a ride?
We installed security cameras at our house becaue DH and I are going out of town this coming weekeng and SD15 and SS16 will be home. They are SUPPOSED to be staying at friends' house (as they were told weeks ago), but let's be real, they aren't going to friends' houses. It is BM's weekend, but she is too lazy to drive the 45 minute to pickup SD15 and SS16 works close to our home. And where we live is "prime location" to have a party - we seriously have no neighbors within a mile.
We have had the cameras in for 4 days. SS16's car broke down this week so they were both going to have to take the bus to school for 2 days. We obviously saw on the camera that someone came and picked them up both days. No problem - they were at school on time so NBD. However, both of them voluntarily told us things about taking the bus in the morning! WTF?
Why in the world would you lie about something SO stupid?!?!? We would not be upset AT ALL if they said they had a ride with a friend instead of taking the bus. My DH even confronted SS16 about it and said a friend drove by and saw a blue car in the driveway - asked if we got a new car. He said they only got a ride the second day, not the first. REALLY!?!?
WHY?!?!? Makes me wonder what else has been going on there that we will be finding out about...
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What's the BM situation? BM
What's the BM situation? BM lies so often for no reason at all (I suspect she's a narcissist and thinks these lies make her sound "good," however, they usually make her sound like an idiot) that the skids think it's totally normal. They lie about unnessecary things all the time. It's so weird to me.
My parents went out of town once. My brother and I, 20 and 16, had a party every night. They only found out because my mom found a beer can under the couch and it was a beer she didn't recognize.
She lies constantly. I a
She lies constantly. I a positive that is exactly where they get it from. They only started living with us 4 years ago so majority of their lives they have lived with their BM and only seen us every other weekend. We are always trying to teach honesty, but we got custody a little too late to change all of their learned behaviors.
SK3 your situation is identical to mine
they now live with us but like you said, we got them too late to really adjust their bad behaviour and make an impact. The BM damage has been done. They are now fully formed in her image as selfish, lying brats with her pathological 'victim' mentality.
Good luck world. You'll need it when these two are unleashed.
I don't understand why you're
I don't understand why you're so accepting of the fact that your skids likely plan to return home rather than stay with friends as planned. Has your DH spoken with the parents who've agreed to be responsible for the skids while you're gone? Has he laid down the law with his kids? How are they even able to get into the home?
There's no way I would risk getting sued should someone get hurt on my property during a teen party. Some 15 and 16 year olds can be trusted; evidently these cannot and you should not allow them in your home at all during your absence.
I could not agree more! I
I could not agree more! I told DH to contact who they were supposed to be staying with. We have locks on our doors that can be easily changed to a different key - my suggestion was to change the keys until we get home. The problem is that SD has a football game that is away Friday night and won't be back until very late. SS needs to pick her up and she will need to come home since the game is directly after school. She can't bring all of her weekend clothes with her to school.
I have told DH that he needs to pick her up that night, bring her to where she is staying, and then return to where we are camping - seriously, for peace of mind and definitely for our own protection, an hour round trip doesn't seem like too much.
This would be so typical of
This would be so typical of SD17. She'd lie about the color of the sky..knowing we all knew what the color of the sky is. It never made any sense to me either. And Yes it certainly does make you think if they're so willing to lie about stupid stuff there's more out there that is also a lie...
Good luck with the cameras! I'd like to know what happens while you're away.
Oh I'm sure I'll be posting
Oh I'm sure I'll be posting my complaints about it! I get the feeling our weekend will be cut short when we see several cars in the driveway... Not looking forward to that.
I'm interested in reading
I'm interested in reading your post after this weekend to see what they got into.....or hopefully not much at all.
Hope you enjoy your weekend!
Pay no mind to their lies. Do
Pay no mind to their lies. Do not discuss their transportation with them again. Tell them to figure it out.