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Submitted by SisterNeko on Fri, 04/13/2012 - 4:50pm

I just have to post this - it makes little sense. So FDH and I are getting married this fall, and we have told some people our 'desired' date but nothing is for sure yet. A few days ago FDh was working with BM to try to reschedule and appt. for SS4.

He nicely said that he can't do it the first week in Oct. He didn't really say why and BM was like okay well I can't do it the 2nd week of October because I am going to be out of town.

Why is that odd? The first week is our week to have the sKids (we planned it that way so we don't have to deal with BM not allowing them to be there) so the 2nd week is HER week. So either she doesn't own a calender and hasn't figured that out or she is taking them with or getting a sitter, or plans to ask us to do it at the last minute? No clue where she is going (don't really care) but the kids will be in school then. FDH asked me if he should tell her yet that it's our wedding that weekend and we are taking the boys out of school for a few days that week because we are getting married out of state.

I don't really want her to know too much this far out. Gives her too much time to fuck with shit. But it almost looks like she knows and is already trying to screw with us. And yes I am paranoid and only think the worst of her. Smile

So do we tell her/ point it out or just wait it out?

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Submitted by ThatGirl on Fri, 04/13/2012 - 5:00pm

Wait it out. More than likely, she just said she had something planned as a retort to your FDH's plans.

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Submitted by smdh on Fri, 04/13/2012 - 5:52pm

Never give these dumb bitches more information than you are legally required. If you have the kids that week, don't worry about what she is doing the second week or what her plans for the kids are. Not your problem. We never told BM we were getting married. In fact, we never told SD until the week before.

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Submitted by SisterNeko on Fri, 04/13/2012 - 7:21pm

Agreed then - I haven't said anything and I try not to say too much in front of the sKids. They know we are getting married and they know it's in the fall. I assume BM will figure it out after the fact. She knows that we are engaged and has tried to figure out when and if we are/have gotten married. When it gets closer we will have to tell her that we are taking them out of state - but you are right we really don't have to say why.

I know i sound paranoid but I just have that feeling BM will try to find some way to mess up our plans, especially for the honeymoon.

We are planning to have a baby next year and I don't plan to tell her or sKids that either - at least until it become apparent. Smile

Thanks for the 2 cents, I'll let FDH know not to say anything, just go with it for now. We'll deal with it closer to time.

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Submitted by SisterNeko on Mon, 04/16/2012 - 10:22am

So FDH did ask her Sunday, if he had heard her right when she said that she was going to be 'out of town' that 2nd week in Oct. She said 'yes'. He then told her, "you know that is your week to have the boys, right?". She protested and insisted that it wasn't but FDH stood firm, BM turned to her hubby and her hubby said, "well we can do it some other week then". So apparently they were planning a trip some where together (good for them) and they don't want to take the kids.

When he came in and told me that he asked her, I double check my calender - that I marked to make sure that I hadn't made a mistake and had FDH check it with me. Yup it's her week already. I asked FDH if she owned a calender?

Is it bad that I kinda wish he hadn't asked her just so I would see how long it would have taken her to figure it out. Smile evil I know. Then she would have had to scramble to change her plans.