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Making Myself Scarce

SilentlyCoping's picture

So, I have been at my new job almost three months!  Much different than what I used to do but I am loving it!  However, on the weekends my DH has hiis kids, I dread going home on Friday night...and I am not allowed to work overtime lol.  

I do not even want to be around these brats anymore.  The weekends they are here, I plan my outings so that I am gone the majority of the day on Saturday....periodically Sunday.  I am not sure DH has caught on yet or if he figures I just need to do errands on the weekend since I work all week.  

This last weekend my DH was off work on Friday.  He went to pick up his 2 girls after school at 3pm.  He waited until 3:30pm and the one daughter had not managed to break away from her boyfriend.  So, DH got angry and told his ex that the oldest daughter coild go home with her....that he was tired of the daughter's inconsiderate ways.  He was angry when I gor home.  But what does he do?  Starts feeling guilty I guess and calls her all morning Saturday, but nobody answering the phone.  His ex finally calls back in the early afternoon.  He tells me after that his daughtet was so sorry and he was going to get her.  Now I was pissed.  I told him she will never learn to be more consideratr unless there are true consequences.  You see, this is probably the sixth time he had has tbis talk with her in the three years I have been with him.  Each time he caves.  Disgusts me!

Anyway, they are coming back this weekend because they will be out of town with their mom Thanksgiving weekend (which was our next scheduled weekemd). So, I am making plans for the weekend to keep me away from the house.  I hate to do this, but just thinking about having to interact with them gives me a pit in my stomach.

 

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Chmmy's picture

These words came out of SD16 last night:

Dad felt bad for yelling at me so he bought me a sweater.

Heeelp. There is no consequences for these kids.

I made a quick dinner for myself last night and went up to room. Im not listening to this shit. After he spent an hour+ and $50 getting them the dinner they wanted no one said thanks dad and they were fighting over the food like vultures. 6pm and goodnight for me. Im out

SilentlyCoping's picture

I know exactly how you feel.  The Saturday he went and got this brat she was rewarded with beimg able to bring her boyfriend over and my DH cooked this special meal.  I call BS!!!! She would have sat at her mom's thinking about things and the dinner woild have been cancelled!  I told him every time she turns on yje tears, you cave and she knows that.  He just says he will not do ir again but he always does.  I am soooo frustrated.  When they are here I do not even want to be in my own home.  And now, when plans change with them, all of a sudden I am not consulted....he just makes the call.  Ugh!  Makes me sick!  

 

Siemprematahari's picture

Do whatever it is you have to do in order to keep your sanity. I hope he realizes that you make yourself scarce and asks himself why. The enabling will only make these little monsters worse and I cant imagine you living many more years with your H and his guilty parenting, it's sad and pathetic.

Hope you enjoy your weekend!