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Well suprise...suprise...Guess who is probably going to have to repeat the fourth grade???? Her teacher sent a rather curt letter home address to "MR and MRS ------) about MY Hell's "lack of responsibility" with her school and home work and said the results are that she will have to repeat the fourth grade.

Her teacher had made the comment to Michelle that she had been sending "her mom" emails about My Hells scholastic problems and that she is "disappinted" with My Hell and "her mom". (So there it is again, the reality of the situation is that the BIO DAD and BIO MOM, screw up the kid, let the kid get away with murder, undermine when the SP tried to displine the child and turn the situation around.. And in the end WHO gets blamed for the kids not doing the right thing?? THE STEP MOM!!)

I emailed her teach and explained the situation and told her that I was disappointed with My Hell and "Her Mom" also! I further explained that the email address she had been sending her information about My Hell's scholastic problems had been to "her father" not to "her mom".

And then told her that I don't believe that "her mom" has an email address. But if she would like to talk to "her mom" the last I heard she was living in a car outside a drug rehab in Fresno california. And if she finds "her mom" to please remind her for me that she is six and a half years behind on child support!! Other then that I am just the step mom trying to do the best I can with a step child who thinks the rules don't apply to her and a husband (BD) who undermines all my attempts to teach HIS child that the rules do apply to her. I made very clear that the problems with My Hell's scholastic performance reside with MY Hell and her father..Not the adult female who happens to reside under the same roof with My Hell..

I wasn't rude but just made it clear who she needs to refer to and where the problem lays. She sent me back an email in which she was amused by my email and apologised because she wasn't aware that I was My Hell's step mom and further thanks me for explaining the situation and what's going on. And she would hold Dh and MY Hell responsible for her scholastic issues.

DH attended a conference with her teacher this morning..Seems MY Hell has a crap load of home work, reading, and assignments to "make up" over the next two and a half months other wise "little miss thang" gets to repeat the fourth grade!! DH is all worried and in an "up roar"...LOL...And one of the first thing out of his mouth was "Hope I don't deploy in the next two months!" (In others words hint hint to me that he is already thinking about ways in which this MY Hell scholastic ball can be dropped into my court. Unfortunatley for him, I am not up for Tennis these days! LOL.)

I told him "Gosh, me to..Because what are you going to do with or about MY Hell if you do deploy??? (In other words I am not picking up HIS ball or cleaning up HIS mess!)

It's sad to say but I have had to keep my "gloating" under wraps..Because YES.. I am gloating up a storm right now!! Sometimes, for a step mom, THIS IS THE GOOOD STUFF...MY HEll and Dear Old Dad are feeling the consequences of THEIR ACTIONS...And it FEELSS GOOD..

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Cruella's picture

Your DH should be worried and needs to do something about it. You have every right to sit back and gloat. I would for sure. The children bio or SS should always be held responsible for their own grades.

Seems like the blame for bad grades seem to always fall on us. My SS came home with his mid term grades. They were horrible! He had the nerve to say it was because a couple of days before the grades came out I didn't help him. I let him know really quickly that he had several weeks before the grades came out to ask for help and he didn't. I told him for now on his father is to help him out period. I will not be a scape goat for this family. Grades are totally his responsibility and he has had his priviliges taken away until they come back up. You see his is failing this term and he is supposed to go around the world to see his Mom this summer. If he fails we cannot send him to summer school due to a court order. He will just have to repeat the grade. My husband does help the children on a daily basis and does a great job. Neither one of us is going to take the blame for his grades. My SS needs to take the full brunt of not doing what he was supposed to do. I don't feel bad at all. And no I don't think it is up to me to help him at all especially if he is going to turn around and say it is my fault if he doesn't pass. Then the Bio Bitch (BM) will blame it on me as well as she sits by her swimming pool tanning and doing nothing for her children just critize my poor husband and blame him and I for everything. HELL NO! I have an email from the teacher saying she never once heard from BM all year!