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SD won't come unless it's a party or vacation

SeeYouNever's picture

My DH is in the military. Later this year he has to go spend a few months at a base that is in a tropical location. it is not going to be for very long so I'm not moving with him. He's not going to have to pay rent or feed himself so we are hoping to save a lot of money. 

SD12 has not seen us since before Christmas and has mostly ignored us every time we try to talk to her. Since finding out that DH is going to be in this tropical location she has been begging for him to fly her out there. He's not even going to be there for six more months and she has not tried to make any plans to see him before then. SD has also said that she wants her aunt to come with her. SD has never really been comfortable being alone with me and would never in a million years allow me to escort her alone just her and my DD. For her to come see us it has to be either a party or a vacation. I hope my husband stays the course and does not give into her manipulations because flying her out there will wipe out the money that we are trying to save especially if he has to pay for an aunt to babysit SD. it's also pretty transparent that she doesn't really want to see him she just wants to go to this vacation spot and play with DHs sister while DH gets to foot the bill for those two to have a vacation together. He would have to play for flights for two people plus activities plus a hotel in this expensive area.

We weren't even sure if I would visit him since our daughter together will be about a year old and it's a pretty long flight for a 1 year old.

Please DH don't fall for it. 

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hereiam's picture

You make sure he doesn't fall for it. If the plan was for you guys to save that money, it makes no sense to use it to fly SD and the aunt out for a vacation. How obvious can they be?

I wonder if DH's sister is in on this? Kind of rude.

SeeYouNever's picture

You bring up a good point, the aunt might be in on this. She is fresh out of college and traveling is a big priority for her even though she can't afford it. Have to get those bikini pictures for the gram. 

justmakingthebest's picture

I would put it back on SD, she can come if she comes out with You and your bio. There is no need for an aunt to be there. 

She won't do it and you will be off the hook. Hopefully your DH will see it for what it was- a free vacation request from SD and her aunt. 

notarelative's picture

SD, I am in the military. I will be working and will not have leave. I will be living in the barracks and will not have family housing. A visit during this time is not possible. 

text and done

thinkthrice's picture

and they agreed for DIL not to fly out for a visit.

NO WAY should that spoiled brat fly out for a free vacay grab!

shamds's picture

which is when hubby breaks the no contact by contacting them to see how they are and its “oh i’m busy”, yeah your dad runs a whole friggin bank in the country and still makes time to contact you 3 pathetic self centred twits.

They only contact him for favours for batshit friggin crazy bio mums family (to which hubby ignores) since a few threatened to kill hubby if he didn’t give more money to exwife in the divorce. Ss also demanded a holiday for daddy to take him and his 2 sisters during our 3rd wedding anniversary to which i pretty much said to hubby “eff you” and to go on holiday alone with those miserable  kids of his and i would holiday with my kids in another country.

hubby sees through their crap but every now and then is rooed in by their manipulative guilting bs that mummy abandoned them so daddy must feel sorry when they were all in contact months before. Its just a yoyo shitstorm...