Pregnant!
I'm pregnant again and looks like I'm going to have two under two! this was a surprise that we weren't avoiding it and I am super excited. It was a lot of effort to get pregnant the first time so this is very much a surprise that I didn't need a doctor's intervention! I feel so proud of myself apparently I can get pregnant on my own! I really struggled emotionally going through fertility treatment.
I know I have sd13 but I cannot foresee her and my kids having that much relationship so I didn't want my daughter to be an only child. I'm not planning on having anymore so hopefully this is a boy that my husband has always wanted. Though I will be perfectly content with another girl.
I'm so excited and happy!!
We have a three bedroom house with a unfinished attic that we are eventually going to finish into a huge suite. However for now it looks like SD is going to be losing her room! She never sleeps in it anyway and it will have the added benefit of making less room for the in-laws when they visit. Oh boo hoo they won't be able to stay the night as often! my husband has suggested in the past when we have a second that they should share a room and I said maybe if they are the same sex however it will be absolutely ridiculous to make two kids share room and have the other one empty the majority of the time.
I do wonder how it's going to be received by s D and b m to know that we are expecting another.
I'm so happy I'm going to have my perfect little family of four. Wish me luck that this pregnancy sticks.
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Congrats on the exciting news
Congrats on the exciting news!
The only question I would have is why does SD have to lose her room? I would think that two kids under two could certainly share a room for several years.. at least until you guys have time to upgrade the attic into a spare room. I think it's important that skids.. even ones that aren't in the home ft have a "room" to sleep in that is theirs while they are having visitation. I'm not saying that it can't also serve other purposes while they are out of the home.. guest room/craft room etc.. but she shouldn't be shuttled to having to sleep on a couch or something.
My brother and I shared a room until I was 12.. we were 18 months apart.. it actually can help your little ones bond to each other and give them security sleeping at night that there is someone else in the room with them.. I actualy think there are a lot of benefits to children sharing a room when they are young. as they get older (your SD's age).. more privacy is appreciated.. but for the foreseeable years... I would just have them share the "biggest" room that is available of the two non-master rooms.
SD usually just keeps her
SD usually just keeps her things in her room and chooses to sleep on the couch while she's here. the extra room is a guest room office and overflow closet for my husband and I right now so really giving it to the next kid is going to put us out a lot more than SD.
Congratulations! I'm so glad
Congratulations! I'm so glad my two have each other. SS12 is merely a blip on their screen and I hope it stays that way. You'll find a lot of people push the half-sibling relationship as being super important when, depending on the circumstances (distance, etc.), it's not. I've always thought that how can two kids be siblings in the normal sense of the word when one of the non-common parents often is resentful of the common one and of any subsequent children they have? It's tainted from the start.
I agree I seen the same thing
I agree I seen the same thing with my husband's sister. she clearly resents his existence in the existence of his other siblings and has acted very entitled over the years to his father's support and money. while she does call and holidays usually her phone calls just serve to make her angry because she only is calling to find out what his father is giving all of his children. She is pretty much removed from everyone's life but she still expects equitable treatment. They are half-siblings but it's a relationship more like distant cousins. I really foresee is similar dynamic when my SD is grown.
Is she his older half-sibling
Is she his older half-sibling from your DH's dad's first marriage?
Yes.
Yes.
Congratulations! How
Congratulations! How exciting! I also agree that the children that live in the home FULL TIME deserve a room whether they are the same sex or not. This whole shrine for skids thing is really ridiculous to me. When my parents divorced I stayed with my dad and when I visited my mom I had to share a room with her up until I was 15-16 b/c my brothers lived with her full time and had their own rooms....like at my dads I had my own room where I lived the majority of the time. I survived and understood that they occupied the home more than I did.
Congratulations!
Enjoy this time!