Not OT- I can't stand one of my SILs
I have one SIL that is very sweet and has two young kids and another that is only a year younger but very immature and selfish, we are predicting she will be alone forever. She has taken on a child of divorce kind of attitude and acts entitled and plays up how she is "damaged" from my DH's divorce. She claims it's the reason she cant have a relationship. She was almost an adult when my DH got divorced and I sometimes think that she behaves how she thinks SD should be behaving. It's almost as though she lives vicariously through her as some damaged child of divorce whereas SD12 has actually coped pretty well. This sil also is the one who is obsessed with being everybody's favorite sister / Aunt / child.
We told his family that we are expecting our second child this past weekend and it over all went well they are excited for us. However sil had to make comparisons to SD12 at every turn. My baby daughter was trying to crawl off the couch and my fil said that she was fearless, sil then jumps into say just like SD. The other sil who has two young kids never got these comparisons when her children acted that way and our daughter never gets compared to them even though they're closer in age. SD being fearless must have been before I met her because she is afraid of dirt and butterflies now. SIL then talked about how exciting and special it was for her to become an aunt with SD but now she gets new neices and nephews every year so it's a regular thing, but SD was the one that made her an aunt so she is special (barf). The other SIL threw some shade and said "yeah no one cares about the youngest" and gave her younger sister a glare haha SHE is my favorite SIL. ImmatureSIL pouted then she actually asked my DH who his favorite child was "SD right?" DH shut her down and said that lately SD has been a jerk and refusing to talk to him or visit and then asks sil if SD has returned any of her messages. SD hasn't which proved his point.
I expect SIL to tell SD to scoop the news and tell SD we're having another baby. But SD isn't talking to her either so she might just tell BM, ugh.
The other SILs kids aren't old enough to understand when their aunt goes on about favorites but they will be soon. The next time she does this I'm going to say "hey SIL, when you were young did you have family members that played favorites? How did that make you feel? Then why are you trying to give another generation your same damage?"
Unless you all can phrase is better >:D