Even BM thinks SD is entitled (no sympathy, she made her that way)
Last year my husband and I went to Europe while I was pregnant (about halfway) and spent a week with another couple that we are friends with. We stayed at their house and caught up with our good friends, tit was more of a visit than a touristy vacation. It was our last chance to hang out with them without the baby.
Sd12 has had a chip on her shoulder for almost a whole year now because we didn't take her with us. BM even thinks SD is being a spoiled brat about this, though... BM would have had to be the one to tell SD that we had traveled because we never told her or rubbed it in. So BM made SD a spoiled brat and told her what she missed out on and then complained to DH about how she reacted? Sounds like you made your own problem BM.
DH and I are both in agreement that SD doesnt get to just see us for parties and vacations. He's actually fine with SD keeping her distance from us, there is no winning over this preteen brat unless you drop loads of money to buy her affection.
Apparently SD is really struggling being at home. It turns out her friends don't want to talk to her because she has a crappy personality. In person she is popular because she flexes brand name everything, seriously she is a walking billboard of logos and acts like she is better than everyone. It turns out that no one cares about your brand name clothes when we have to socialize remotely. Serves the little snot right.
Anyone else have stepkids who are being ignored by their friends?