BM changed once I got pregnant
Long time reader, I rarely post but this step thing is starting to go downhill. My relationship has been pretty good until we got pregnant then BM has tried to be a lot more present in our lives.
She used to treat my husband like he was only good for sending money. Their conversations were always short and to the point. After a while of being a bitch they started to be cordial like co-workers but still only had short conversations. She would often ignore his requests to talk to SD. We saw SD once in a blue moon, so we aren't close and I figured I would handle this stepmom thing if that was all it was.
Lately BM has been very communicative and nice. They now have these long friendly text conversations about SD and coparenting strategy. I know this is good for my husband but this literally started when she found out I was pregnant. She still acts like I don't exist but she has been talking a lot more to him and letting him get SD a lot more and also asking for a lot more extra money (of course there was a motive!) My husband spends a lot of money on SD on the rare occasions we have her.
So basically she is asking for more money and having these nice parenting conversations with my husband and it feels like she is more present in our lives than ever before. Right when he and I are supposed to be learning to be parents together she decides to come in and be a good coparent with him. She says it's ok for SD to come see us a lot once we have the baby which I did not expect at all. SD wants to babysit and has been giving me mothering advice, which is super condensending coming from a preteen.
She literally never sent him pictures of SDs events now she sends him pictures of her practices. This is what my husband has been wanting for a long time and she finally gives it to him when we are having a baby? BM is married and has a kid with her current husband.
Why the hell is she being so nice? I feel like I'm the only one suspicious about this. She was fine with him not being in SDs life before but now she is trying to make sure he doesn't forget her? My husband is distracted by these damn conversations and it's so annoying. He shows them to me but it burns me up when he is texting his ex wife and smiling and laughing.