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secret's picture

It's been a few weeks now where the school has been emailing every day with an update on ss.

Today was a terrrrrrrible day for ss at school. Climbing on windowsill... looking straight at teacher after she asked him to stop doing something and kept doing it anyway... 3 separate times... no written work..  just a brat all day.

Last week, he had his moments but overall a good week.

The week before, total shit. Choking another kid style shit.

Can you see a pattern? Can you guess which parent he's at on which week??

The school sure does.....  and lucky me, I continue to have their daily updates for a few weeks to add to my depository of documentation. They mentioned it before... but is it's in writing. 

I'm seriously gloating in my head a little bit. While it's terrible that ss is going through something... he's not that bad here... and he's not that bad at school when it's our week... but for the school to acknowledge that his behaviours are much more terrible during our off week was just...well...glorious.

Might just send BM over the edge...if she bothered to realize what's going on of course... and yes... it's totally petty of me to be thrilled to pieces that he's acting up more on her week... but only because that gives dh ammo to put that bitch back in her place.

Turns out no, I'm not the mom, but the school counsellor just basically put in writing that I'm doing a better job of it hunnybuns...

"Ss seems to be having challenges during some weeks that are visibly less prevalent during other weeks. It's imperative that both households work together to maintain a consistent environment, one in which he experiences the same limitations, boundaries and disciplinary measures; today's situations were much worse than last week's. I would suggest sharing what works in dad's home with mom so that mom can begin implementing some standards of behaviour that are closer to those in dad's home, given that the challenges seem to be lesser during the weeks ss is with dad. We are happy to act as intermediary for the sharing of information should the communication challenges persist."

I just about fell on my ass because it's pretty darn direct..but since the school is now working with Crossroads...which is basically a mental health organization for kids and families....they need to be. No more pussyfooting. 

put that in your crack pipe you whore

 

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Lollybobs's picture

"I would suggest sharing what works in dad's home with mom so that mom can begin implementing some standards of behaviour that are closer to those in dad's home, given that the challenges seem to be lesser during the weeks ss is with dad"

Absolutely brilliant! Good on the school for not pussyfooting around the issue.

thinkthrice's picture

More school district aren't this perceptive.  Instead of just blaming it on some sort of syndrome.  The only syndrome most of the children have is l o p

Lack of parenting

advice.only2's picture

Shocking for me to see a school not bending over backwards and placating the BM.

thinkthrice's picture

Probably one in a billion!!  So rare it this school district should be declared an extinct species!

Cooooookies's picture

OMG wouldn't you love to be a fly on the wall so you could watch BM's reaction after she reads that!!

Biggrin

NotThatTypical's picture

Sadly it's not the slam dunk you would think it is. There are all sorts of reasons the child might be acting up at moms. She could claim you guys are telling him to misbehave with her. The courts will do everything they can to maintain 50/50.

secret's picture

We're not really looking for changes to the custody.

It's just satisfying that should BM try more crap... that dh has the back up to slam her back down.

Livingoutloud's picture

Hopefully SS gets the help he needs. I remember that  BM, she is really trashy, right? Gross. I wonder if her  household is chaotic and disorganized, which could be contributing to his acting out. Especially if he has attention deficit. Hope professionals could get to the bottom of it.