Conversation this morning
This morning I asked DH if he had talked to ss over the weekend about what might have been said in school.. his response was that he did, and that the kid said "No dad...I didn't say anything...not about you!"
Now dh can be stupid.
I don't know if any of you picked up on that...and maybe it's my brain going in overdrive...
"Not about you!"
But about SOMEBODY... right?
Anyway, when I was talking with DH this morning I made it crystal clear that if ss has involved me in any bullshit, that he will need to see ss outside the home from now on. Of course, DH got upset...again.
I told him to think about it like it was reversed...what if it had been one of MY kids that said something about him... true or false, it would be a mark on him...and would he want to be around that kid? What if my daughter, who was 8 when she met dh, would have said that he touched her? He wouldn't want to be alone with her ever again..right? Even if it wasn't true?
Because he would know that she would have been capable of that kind of heinous crap and it would destroy the dynamic of our family....
And so if his kid said something heinous about me, that he wouldn't be trusted either and I would prefer to protect my family from any more bullshit resulting from the lying that he,dh, never dealt with... so rather than having to take steps to walk around the situation, the situation simply wouldn't be allowed in the family dynamic.
He responded that if ss goes, he goes.
Sure, no problem!
I also explained to him the realities that if they were to find that ss would be better off away from his dad, that they could also make the decision that my kids should also not be there...and that would be unforgiveable.
He still thinks it's all bullshit and he plans to tell the lady off... told him yeah, great plan...lose your shit and get angry at her, go ahead and give her a reason to take ss out of this home... reminded him I told him this would happen...and that there's nothing he can do about it now, it's up to them to make the decision.
I didn't elaborate or anything...because he seemed scared enough with that, so I didn't bother telling him that they prefer to work with families etc... and told him he best prepare to figure out when and where he's going to see his kid...cuz if the shit hits the fan, it won't be here.
Of course, I'm cruel...heartless...he's just a kid...
Yes...and evil manipulative little shit that YOU created and molded, dh! You have nobody to blame but yourself! Have a nice day!
While dh is shitting himself at work all day... I took the day off work... and am happily binging Netflix shows while waiting for my chocolate chip to finish baking, so that I can go take a nice long hot bubble bath with a tray of goodies and relaaax !