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Princess Fionaesque SD and her soon to be hubby....part 2

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Submitted by SamJones on Thu, 03/19/2015 - 11:46pm

I thought my problems were over after my epic fight with DH over contributing to HIS daughter's wedding from our savings. When push came to shove, I dug my heels in and REFUSED to take from our savings fund, money to contribute to the wedding of SD. I said, your daughter, your expense. It is not fair to take FROM OUR savings, and besides SD and fiancée both have jobs!!!! Getting married without savings and expecting somebody else to foot the bill????? WTF!!!

Anyways, wedding gown paid for by hubby and BM. Next would be the reception expense. Which DH is saving up for now.

NOW, for the kicker! My parents in law will be celebrating their 50th anniv in December. We have planned to celebrate this in the Caribbean. I thought SD's and fiancée won't be coming, turns out they will be coming along after all and will be taking the same flight wiy us.

Now, another problem for me. I am expecting that while there, SDS and fiancé will expect us to pay for them as well!!!??? How do I tell my DH that his ugly DD and freeloading fiance has to pay their Own way? It is so stressful having to fight about money when it comes to this ugly freeloading SD. I would appreciate all the advice you can give me..thanks

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StepLady's picture

Submitted by StepLady on Fri, 03/20/2015 - 4:34am

Agreed! Tell him in no uncertain terms what you expect and what you will not be doing. Time to have money for yourself and not his ADULT daughter and dreams of weddings and trips. Sounds like nonsense to me!

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Submitted by SamJones on Fri, 03/20/2015 - 5:40pm

Thanks for the advice. SDS and fiance always assume BM and DH will pick up the tab. Always probably BMs fault because she spoiled her daughter. Even the fiance is that way too. Fiance even had the gall to tell DH hey I have proposed marriage to your daughter can you help with the expenses, and my DH, so happy somebody is marrying his YLGU daughter, said YES I will try to help!!! OHEMGEEE.

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Submitted by Oh Margie on Fri, 03/20/2015 - 12:45pm

Why do you assume they expect you to pay? Has something been said, or is this just based on their past freeloading behavior?

I would make a comment to DH along the lines of "Wow, are they sure they can afford this trip with the wedding coming up???"

And then definitely, get your money tucked away somewhere safe.

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Submitted by SamJones on Fri, 03/20/2015 - 11:26pm

Oh Margie, I don't assume, I know on past behaviour! Whenever we go and visit them, they always expect DH or BM to pick up tab, and when they visit us, and we eat out, they NEVER even do the token gesture of offering to pay, BOTH of them. Even fiance, the gall.

And last year when we met for a my and DH's birthday lunch, I, DH, my bio daughter, SD and fiance, before we sat down to eat SD right off the bat said, we have no money to pay for lunch! DH and I paid for lunch, and my daughter being the daughter, said, she will pay for her own lunch, she didn't want to pay for the 2 freeloading leeches so she just opted to pay for hers. After two weeks, SD came to visit with a NEW car.

I have told DH this when SD said fiance proposed, "do they even have the money to pay for their wedding????" DH was so offended and we have been in a Cold War since.