SD won’t eat anything!!
Hi Girls... just looking for a bit of advice my step daughter is almost 2 and a half, she is with us at weekends and we have a fantastic relationship now. My only issue is meal times, I cook from scratch (just the way I've been brought up) and her daddy is a head chef so fresh, good food and nutrition is just how we are wired.
so my issue is BM does/ can not cook so McDonald's is on the menus 3+ times a week and processed food in between. So when my SD comes to us and gets real food it's met with a mouthful and a tantrum. Like her dad says to me if it was processed crap put down she'd be all over it. It's not me proving a point but it isn't healthy for her and she is constantly consitipated as well which is down to her diet and causes her pain.
He's said to BM we need to cute down on gluten (polite way of saying the cakes before bed, constant fast food and crap) to ease this.
But it falls on deaf ears as she's a I know everything type, even to the point my SD was taken into hospital with a bad viral inflection on admittance her heart rate was high too so doc suggested cutting down on salt etc. Low and behold my partner checked in later and McDonald's was for dinner!!
What do we do because we're at a total loss we try our side but she will only eat what she's used to that side and ex won't listen to anything!
Thanks in advance ladies xx
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Does Dad have medical rights?
Does Dad have medical rights? Can he get her doctor to back him up on the diet thing? Is BM the type to be worried about what others think that her parenting failures being exposed publicly would do any good? (my BM was like that)
Jerry Seinfeld's wife has a cook book on how to bury the good stuff so kids will eat it. The chef needs to get more creative and sneaky. Praise all successful bites, and she will eat when hungry. Kids are funny like that.
Oh that is frustrating. And
Oh that is frustrating. And that young is really difficult. You may have to go slightly processed in order to get at least more nutrition than she's been getting. I'm not sure the types of foods you're trying to give her, but if she's getting McDonald's with BM and then steamed broccoli at your house, then it will be impossible. You'll have to meet her in the middle at least.
There are things like veggie nuggets she might like, that yes they might be fried/baked but they do have good nutrition. See if she likes peanut butter, baby carrots, you can grind zucchini into pasta sauce and give spaghetti. Find some cute cartoons who eat veggies and healthy food so she wants to copy them. She must like fruit so definitely give her that. I make fried tofu in fried rice and tell SS5 it's chicken. He doesn't know the difference. Also see what motivates her. I told SS when he was 4 that eating broccoli makes your muscles grow and makes you strong. As soon as he took a bite and chewed, I made a big ass deal and said "OH MY GOD YOUR MUSCLES ARE GROWING!!" His lit up and started flexing super cute and ate a bunch more. If she's more feminine, you can tell her eating healthy foods will make her beautiful, or somehting like that. (which is true, really.)
Eating with too much restriction isn't good for growing kids, so giving in to some things is still good for them. Gluten is fine. The important thing is balance and variety in the diet. Cheese, wheat crackers, grapes = balanced. Peanut butter, apples, gold fish crackers = balanced. Etc.