So my New Years resolution was to try and reach out to BM, the lady who I had arrested 2 times because she threatened to kill me then broke an order of protection. She also has called my work in the past tring to get me fired and wrote a letter, she claims I broke confidentiallity laws, but obviously did not. She has called DSS on me 3 times tring to get my foster daughter taken away, which did not happen we are now adopting her. She refused to knock on my door to get her son last Friday, she called my DH to have him call me to send out my 4 year old SS. I told her she was more than welcome to knock or come in and she said, yeah, no thanks and left. I am a teacher and get school breaks off so that is when I watch my SS, she is a secetary at a school so she has to work breaks but gets out early. Instead of having me watch him she takes him to work with her, I find that weird, she has no family where we live her family is 45 minutes away, so she has no help, she has 1 friend here in the 7 years she has lived here. I think it is crazy she takes her son to work with her or her mom's boyfriend will watch him instead of being with me and his sister. Just on Monday at skiiing, my SS skis with his Dad, I said Hi and Bye and she totally ignored me, when I said by she giggled to herself shook her head and walked away, so now I am going to send her some baby pictures of SS as a nice gesture, because I think we have them all. I have no idea why, but I would almost rather be able to talk with her than have the tension every time we go some where to watch SS. But I guess I have to deal with it because I love my DH so much to put up with it. So do I try or not try?? Why do I get so nervious when I know she will be there?? My DH has given up on being nice, he has been overly nice for 3 years and she has done nothing but lie about him in court and treat him like shit. I have never been rude, but now for some reason in my crazy head, I want to try and talk with her, I feel better when I try, I hate leaving having not said anything. At least I know it pisses her off when I say anything to her. She hates me because she claims I destroyed her family,took her man, and had her arrested, which was her own doing. She never wants me to be around her son, which we are married and live together. So why do I have this feeling that things will be better if we can talk. We go to court hte 16th for full custody, after that she will probably never even look at me.