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O/T - Ready for a change

Rhinodad's picture

Do you ever feel stuck? Lately I've felt very stuck, mostly concerning my job.

I telework from a location in a different state as my employer. I've been with the same company for almost 10 years now (in two different positions). My current position has been going on now for 6 years. The management has significantly changed both in my department and the organization as a whole over the past year, and with that change has brought much more stress. I work in our business office, and management made the decision to switch out our Accounts Payable/Finance system for a new system called Workday. It has been a huge mess since they began implementing it - the management wants it to do many, many more things than it is actually capable of and really it has just been a disaster. In addition to that, my position is greatly affected by this change, to the point where I worry that ultimately this will lead to a lay-off.

I have been applying for jobs for the past two years. Two years, and I've applied to over 100 jobs. I have received interviews on three of them. Two never called back, the third I got to the 2nd interview before the company was acquired and all hiring was cancelled. I have vastly altered my cover letters, resume, etc. in hopes of getting more "bites." But nothing. A good friend who has lots of pull at huge firm even passed my resume along. I received an informational call from their HR department, but was told they don't have anything meeting my skills. I am getting exceedingly frustrated, and at this point would almost consider a much lower level job just to get out of my current situation... though I would most likely not be hired, as due to my education I'd be considered over qualified. So, in essence I'm ready to get out of this position, but am having no luck at all.

So I'm stuck in the respect that I'm having lo luck finding local jobs. The other issue where I'm stuck is looking for jobs outside of our metro area. In my field there are some great positions available in some cities like DC, Chicago, Denver, Detroit. I'd love to move, I do not like where we live. DW is on board with a move, but the sticking point is of course SD7. Since she shares joint custody with BioDad (even though she is primary), could we really move? Their CSA states that they must live within 50 miles of each other... so she'd probably have to go back to court. So I'd basically have to find an awesome job and move while DW dealt with the issue in court, and of course there is no guarantee that a judge would let SD go with us, and if she wasn't allowed to, DW would not move. So there's that, and I'd be lying if I said that didn't make me a little bit resentful - not of SD, but of BioDad.

In any case, I will keep plugging along, hopefully something will come up soon. I'd really like to get unstuck.

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askYOURdad's picture

It sounds like you have tried several things regarding your job search. Have you thought about hiring someone to do your resume? I know someone who that is their job, similar to a head hunter I suppose, but she found a niche basically doing Linked-in profiles/resumes/cover letters etc. Recently a friend of mine in a six figure salary job was laid off and within four weeks of hiring her he was able to land another job with a comparable salary/benefits.

Rhinodad's picture

My DW has a friend who did that, and we had her review and change resume too. It yielded no results. I'm hesitant to pay a fee to have anyone else do it, because nothing is ever guaranteed.

Rhinodad's picture

I like what I am doing, for the most part. Also I have significant student loan debt, so I can't really make a move where I'd be working for less money than I am now. It really has to be equal or greater in salary.

I know why I'm miserable at this job. I was fine before the new management came, and now I can see their boneheaded decisions and really bad habits vis-a-vis spending for our organization. Essentially making purchases that benefit upper management while laying off large portions of our department. Additionally I work from home, and have since 2009, and I'm tired of it. I want to get back into an office environment, believe it or not. Working at home has been nice, but I am really sick of it. Plus if I'm not at home all the time, that means less of my DW expecting me to take care of SD's every need and desire!

As some background, I met DW at a mutual friend's wedding in Las Vegas, I was a friend of the groom and she a friend of the bride. We did the long distance thing for a while before I decided to make the move to her state. My employer wanted to keep me on, and hence I've been teleworking for them since I left their location in 2009. I work in higher education, and typically that is not the most fruitful place to be - this year is the first year I've received a raise of more than .5% in 4 years. And it has never been tied to our performance - they would just raise salaries across the board, no matter what you received on performance evals. So that was frustrating.

I don't need the perfect job, I just feel like I need something new. I'm bored and frustrated where I am at now.

K.C.'s picture

I feel "stuck" too. My husband got laid off in March and totally switched careers and LOVES his new job. I am glad he switched because we want to move in 2 years out of state and he could stay w/ the same company and put in for a transfer. I have looked around for jobs where we want to move and found some that I would love to apply for but I would be torturing myself because per DH, we can't move until SIL is out of prison - 2 year time frame. So now I'm thinking why is someone in prison dictating MY LIFE? Eff that! So I actually applied for 2 jobs in NH. I am now thinking if I can get a job up there, then I will leave and rent a small apartment up there until he is ready to get off his mother's tit and he'll see how much more drama an ex con sister living next door will be. Maybe he'll follow me sooner than later!

Annoyed1's picture

I hear ya! I actually just recently applied for new jobs all over the country and even in Australia! I decided that I will apply and see what my options are for me. As for DH and his kids, we'll see what happens. I'm tired of trading my life in for this load of crap! I'm hoping I get a job in Australia so I can just leave and start my life with someone that actually wants a life with me!